Ex-Girlfriend Needs to let go (women, love, cheating, divorced)
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Refresher: Got divorced and entered into a relationship last year. Hindsight this was a rebound relationship. Anyhow, I ended it several months ago and I told her to not contact me. I’m not a let’s be friends after a break up kind of guy. Experience has shown that doing so invites complications and drama.
Aside from that, beginning in October I’ve met an amazing woman who enjoys road trips and hiking. Compliments my photography habit very well so we’ve been having a blast together.
But...the ex girlfriend likes to email me once in a blue moon since I’ve blocked her calls/texts. I don’t respond at all. And she needs to just stop. I’ve had to mark her emails as spam now.
Anyhow, wanted to share her last two email shenanagians with the most recent one being a little...I don’t know...psychotic/irrational.
When we broke up, she said she would delete all my contact information. She didn’t.
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I think it's unrealistic to just expect someone for whom you used to be a part of their life everyday to simply go on living their lives after a break up like nothing ever happened and just completely move on and forget you ever existed. I don't get why that's a societal expectation. Assuming the breakup wasn't on bad terms (which it might have been in OP's case, I don't know), why do you have to block them on social media, delete their number, and all? What happened to, "things didn't work out between us, but I wish you the best, and I hope we can stay friends"? It's like decency and kindness are gone nowadays.
Obviously, this would not apply if there was a really negative reason for the breakup, like cheating or abuse.
For the record, I don't think this ex is crazy. Maybe she's lonely, maybe she misses you, or maybe she is just drunk or bored. Who knows? You can take a chance and respond, or just ignore it. There is nothing noteworthy about this whatsoever.
Anyway, yeah, don't be too harsh. She got attached to you. It may have been a rebound for you, but for her it wasn't. I agree that she needs to let go, but she probably has to get a few more emails out of her system before she just quits contacting you altogether. I think it's best that you don't respond.
Hmmm....color me suspicious but why would "Aprill" use her last name (which you blacked out) when texting you??....kinda odd that someone you knew intimately would use their last name when signing a text to you.
I think it's unrealistic to just expect someone for whom you used to be a part of their life everyday to simply go on living their lives after a break up like nothing ever happened and just completely move on and forget you ever existed. I don't get why that's a societal expectation. Assuming the breakup wasn't on bad terms (which it might have been in OP's case, I don't know), why do you have to block them on social media, delete their number, and all? What happened to, "things didn't work out between us, but I wish you the best, and I hope we can stay friends"? It's like decency and kindness are gone nowadays.
Obviously, this would not apply if there was a really negative reason for the breakup, like cheating or abuse.
For the record, I don't think this ex is crazy. Maybe she's lonely, maybe she misses you, or maybe she is just drunk or bored. Who knows? You can take a chance and respond, or just ignore it. There is nothing noteworthy about this whatsoever.
I kinda lean toward this. She does not sound crazy to me either. I know what it's like to give up someone you love even when it was me doing the exit thing (she cheated and I found a new girlfriend). I have two women I still think of and miss sometimes (the cheater being one). I feel like talking to them although I'm not sure what I would talk about. So, maybe that's where she is at. If it were me, I would respond to that last email, just out of courtesy. She is right, you were friends once. Would one kind responce do any harm or hurt you?
I think it's unrealistic to just expect someone for whom you used to be a part of their life everyday to simply go on living their lives after a break up like nothing ever happened and just completely move on and forget you ever existed. I don't get why that's a societal expectation. Assuming the breakup wasn't on bad terms (which it might have been in OP's case, I don't know), why do you have to block them on social media, delete their number, and all? What happened to, "things didn't work out between us, but I wish you the best, and I hope we can stay friends"? It's like decency and kindness are gone nowadays.
Obviously, this would not apply if there was a really negative reason for the breakup, like cheating or abuse.
For the record, I don't think this ex is crazy. Maybe she's lonely, maybe she misses you, or maybe she is just drunk or bored. Who knows? You can take a chance and respond, or just ignore it. There is nothing noteworthy about this whatsoever.
I dont think its controversial at all, because it has a lot of truth to it.
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