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It is all fine and good to be a gentleman but some women would probably misinterpret the desire to walk her to the door with the desire to be invited in. So I would probably ask a woman if she would like that...
It is all fine and good to be a gentleman but some women would probably misinterpret the desire to walk her to the door with the desire to be invited in. So I would probably ask a woman if she would like that...
I think this is really an important point. Even in our more casual society, customs still vary from place to place, and what is seen as very typical in my part of the world could be viewed as overbearing and unnecessary in others.
I've got a second date with a girl. The first was a first meet/date. She is conservative and likes chivilry, so now I'm wondering if I need to walk her to her door from the driveway after the date. I come from a big city where you don't even drive for dates. You always meet up and then part ways after the date, so dating in a smaller normal city is new to me.
Unless you are picking her up from a time machine just do the normal thing and leave after she exits the vehicle. Unless you are trying to cosplay a role in a romantic comedy, just act like a regular person. You should run away fast from any woman that expects this kind of silly crap, just be yourself.
Most women I know would laugh at you and send you immediately to the friend zone if you did this.
Unless you are picking her up from a time machine just do the normal thing and leave after she exits the vehicle. Unless you are trying to cosplay a role in a romantic comedy, just act like a regular person. You should run away fast from any woman that expects this kind of silly crap, just be yourself.
Most women I know would laugh at you and send you immediately to the friend zone if you did this.
He's not trying to date most women you know. This woman is conservative and likes a chivalrous gesture so I can't see where he'd go wrong displaying such a gesture.
Sure, and dating is a process in which you get to know each other. What better time to show a person that you are considerate and capable of restraint than on her doorstep?
To me, if you're into chivalry it's better to show her who you are than to leave her wondering because you sat in the car doing nothing, afraid of being ... what? Accused? Misconstrued?
To answer the OP's question, he already KNOWS she values those characteristics. If he can comply, great. If it's totally against his principles, it's better that he knows that now.
Yep. I'd much prefer somebody showing genuine courtesy than dithering about whether or not his courtesy is going to be misinterpreted as untoward and ultimately skipping it. I don't really want to date somebody who decides dispensing with manners is good self preservation.
He's not trying to date most women you know. This woman is conservative and likes a chivalrous gesture so I can't see where he'd go wrong displaying such a gesture.
And, FTR, one needn't be either conservative or a romantic comedy cosplayer to value manners.
Walk her to the door. It doesn't say "You're weak and I'm manly."
It says "I want to spend more time with you."
THIS.
It's just a really generous and kind MAN who does this...she won't forget...
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