Why do people say you should not be in a relationship to escape loneliness? (love, single)

[singaporelady]

I know it is true in a way cos the main thing is we ourselves are sufficient,we should not rely on another person to make ourselves complete and etc. Many people also say their partners does not fulfil their emotional needs etc..

But the other side is Isn’t companionship a
Big part of what being in a relationship is about ?

So want to hear some views.

I am on the lookout though

[Tominftl]

Some people feel more alone in a relationship that’s not functioning anymore. Get a dog. They will always be there for you...

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by singaporelady

I know it is true in a way cos the main thing is we ourselves are sufficient,we should not rely on another person to make ourselves complete and etc.

People seek out partners for companionship. Nothing is wrong with that.

[scribbles76]

I'd rather live on my own (and put up with occasional bouts of loneliness) then be in any kind of relationship, good or bad. Too great a risk and too much adjustment required for too little reward.

There are ways to minimise the wall-climbing effects that can come with spending a lot of time alone. Good sleep habits, healthy eating and exercise will help you become and maintain your best self. It's also important to keep your mind active with hobbies and lots of reading.

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by Tominftl

Some people feel more alone in a relationship that’s not functioning anymore. ...

Maybe so, but I feel sorrier for people who are alone, than people in bad relationships.

[scribbles76]

Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla

Maybe so, but I feel sorrier for people who are alone, than people in bad relationships.

Single people only have their own to deal with and don't have to spend their time and energy either fixing or tiptoeing around someone else's.

[KickAssArmyChick]

Because it shouldn't be someone else's job to make you feel fulfilled or less lonely. People already have enough crap to deal with these days.

[Auraliea]

I wouldn't rely on another person to keep me happy or keep me from being lonely, that's my job.

I wouldn't want the burden of someone else's emotional turmoil on my shoulders, so why would I put mine on theirs?

I believe wholeheartedly in self sufficiency. A partner should add to your life, not take away from it. If you can't be happy by yourself, getting a partner is a temporary solution. People are extremely flawed and will most definitely hurt you at some point. To put all of your feelings and let your happiness rely on that person is a recipe for disaster.

[TJenkins602]

Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla

Maybe so, but I feel sorrier for people who are alone, than people in bad relationships.

After all, it is better to be choked, shot, slashed, stabbed and maimed by the one who's supposed to love you than be alone.

[mir86]

While I agree that its not healthy to be emotionally dependent on another person. Humans are wired for connection. There have been studies on the effects on emotional and physical health that comes from healthy connections. Relationships are extremely important, sex is important. That said, Its way healthier to be alone than in a bad relationship, obviously. But good relationships are healthier than being alone, above all. Romantic or not.