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Originally Posted by Katiethegreat
I don't know how you can invest your emotional life into someone and expect to remain distant that is pretty strange.
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And yet if this therapist were female (assuming the OP is straight-up hetero), she'd manage it.
Right?
Sure you can open your emotional life to your therapist without deciding the therapist is either your lover or your bestie. It happens every day. The OP specifically says "crush." That goes beyond even the typical somewhat-attached feeling one may get for a therapist due, as you say, to opening up emotionally.
And from the other side of things, sharing and not becoming something beyond a client/therapist association...well, from the therapist's side of things, he does that every single day. In fact, he does it for a living.
Nobody said she would need to be "distant," she does need to open up. We said she needs to be non-romantic. (Well, to paraphrase.) It's a dangerous place to go to in thinking "well, but this is probably normal, so I can only be expected to think romantically about this person." Definitely it's a dangerous place when 1. a hint of such a thing could ruin the therapist's career - ruin his life, in fact and b. the OP is already in a precarious emotional place. One more knock could be pretty darned hard on her.
I think we all understand HOW it can happen, it's not like the OP is a bad person...this is a pretty common thing. We're just trying to talk some sense to her and help her out of it, because this will only hurt her if it continues.