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I would not recommend this approach. What is she, a sex worker? Trading sex for a meal? How charming.
Just...ask her? You know, communicate.
But it's Ok to break off because of her lack of sex? Which he has already done once and wants to do again.
Making a date for sex IS communicating. He would be be communicating very clearly AND positively. I did not suggest doing it in a crude manner.
imagine meeting and interacting with people all the time outside of your relationship who trigger you in such a way and going back home to someone who does the opposite or leads to indifference.
How important this aspect to you is is what will define how “ok” you are with ending a relationship over it.
However, if you’re the type described above. You’re in for a lot of sour grapes throughout your relationship if you attempt to stick around and fight it.
But it's Ok to break off because of her lack of sex? Which he has already done once and wants to do again.
Making a date for sex IS communicating. He would be be communicating very clearly AND positively. I did not suggest doing it in a crude manner.
The entire scenario is crude. “After I find out how you are in bed—but no pressure!—we will go out for a bite to eat.”
If he can’t get it to occur naturally, and if he won’t talk to her about why, then maybe they aren’t a match and they should both move on. I didn’t say it was not a legitimate reason to stop seeing each other. It is, if they can’t reach a consensus. I just think he should talk to her first. He asked why she keeps seeing him. It might be an opportunity to see what both want. Pressuring her into sex as a date when she has given no indication that she wants to sex puts him into the position of having to ask for it and her feeling like she has to have sex or lose the guy. Not attractive or romantic. It appears neither has the other’s well being at the forefront of their minds. The least they could do is talk.
I'm not seeing the pressure. Perhaps I should rephrase. I'm suggesting he sets the next date as a sex date. Not a dinner date followed by sex. Not any other kind of date. The idea is to take a firm stand and make a clear statement. If she rejects the invitation then the Op will know where he stands.
It might have the desired effect of getting her attention.
I'm not seeing the pressure. Perhaps I should rephrase. I'm suggesting he sets the next date as a sex date. Not a dinner date followed by sex. Not any other kind of date. The idea is to take a firm stand and make a clear statement. If she rejects the invitation then the Op will know where he stands.
It might have the desired effect of getting her attention.
But yes, the least they should do is talk.
303, she won't even let him kiss her on the lips.
I hear what you're saying but if she does have an inner sex kitten, it's not for the OP. I am a woman saying this. It is what it is.
The OP may find his sex kitten. Or just a really great girlfriend who has at least a normal amount of attraction for him, personally. "It" just doesn't always happen, no matter how great a person is, and that aversion to even letting him kiss her really says it all. IMO.
I feel like OP deserves more. And "setting up a sex date" will only wind up humiliating for him.
My friend is about to marry a born again Christian. No sex before marriage, but she still blows him lol.
That is a very creative definition of no sex
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And "setting up a sex date" will only wind up humiliating for him.
