Guys, would it bother you dating a girl with scars and health problems

[rigby06]

Originally Posted by Mightyqueen801

My late MIL was missing two fingers from a farm accident when she was a teenager. She married and had six kids. My ex said when a new friend would come to the house, she would offer to make sandwiches and then, with the knife in her hand, would exclaim, "Oh, no, look what I did!" and hold up her hand.

He said one kid ran out the door and never came back lol.

I have been around both friends younger kids and family kids, maybe 6, most likely younger, and when they would see my left hand, the kids were like open up your hand fully, they did not quite comprehend that the fingers were missing.


It always made me smile, the innocence of young children.


Regarding the same issue with my left hand, after the accident, my best friend and I were playing Golf, and since I was now missing two fingers on my left hand, I had to hold the club differently. He made a joke don't stump your hand when you swing the club. I was so shocked, how could he say that, but he just had a big grin on his face, and all I could do was laugh at it.


Over the years I have made jokes about it my self, if I can't laugh at a accident that was my fault, that could be a real problem.

[Lovedianaroses]

I have tons of scars and bruises on my body from different medical conditions and I've never had any man run away from me or was turned off by them. I think it helps that I'm not insecure about it. I make sure to let them know in advance, and if they have already fallen for you, it will not matter to them. Just own it and talk about it bravely. You went through so much and your scars are a symbol of your strength.

However, it is possible that there are really shallow and judgmental guys out there so I always look out for signs of that in the beginning. If I feel like they will be judgmental, then I quickly leave before anything gets too intimate. I only show my scars to people I know will be open and accepting.

[Abcde1234]

Thanks guys. Seems like I'm more paranoid than I need to be. It didn't work out with him but that's not why. We just were a weird match

[7inchscar]

Hi I'm a new poster

Girls/Woman with scars from surgery/illness are cool

they all have a story and their part of their bodies.

they should show them off anyway.

and I've got a scar on my knee from ripping my ACL Up

then 3 Yrs ago '' Had a Tkr done With a nasty scar after''

growing up in calif our friends our buds had scars no problem.

we layed out on the patio and grass most the time as pre-teens and teens

plenty beer rock music the funny brownies, we left our car keys at home

someone pulled their phone out of the window.

those were the days thanks 7inchscar ;-)))

and letting me post thanks

[ellybelly83]

I have scars, breast reduction surgery, c-section, stretchmarks. No guy has ever cared or been turned off. I have a full back tattoo...that is more likely to turn people off.

[mlj1225]

Originally Posted by Abcde1234

Thanks guys. Seems like I'm more paranoid than I need to be. It didn't work out with him but that's not why. We just were a weird match

Keep your head up!