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Again...in many states, still cheatimg. It can affect the divorce in her favor. It baffles me that people don’t know this. Until you are not married, legally, you’re married.
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Why is only "part of you" happy that he's moved on?
Honestly, I'm surprised that during the writing of this post you didn't realize how odd it is to be upset that he's moved on when you're the one who's divorcing him.
Why is it so bothersome to you that he's not unhappy? It seems like you don't necessarily even want a divorce, you just want to see him in pain.
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Again...in many states, still cheatimg. It can affect the divorce in her favor. It baffles me that people don’t know this. Until you are not married, legally, you’re married.
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Again...in many states, still cheatimg. It can affect the divorce in her favor. It baffles me that people don’t know this. Until you are not married, legally, you’re married.
As I understand it, that usually applies to the one who has asked for the divorce, not the one who is being left.
If you ask for a divorce and have an ongoing relationship during that time, the court takes that into account.
Doesn’t matter. It only matters if your state doesn’t even have fault grounds and it is not even possible to file fault. Otherwise, she could potentially change her filing to fault. Most of them still have that, and on the flip side, unless I am wrong, every state is “no fault” because they all offer it as an option. Doesn’t at all mean she can’t change the filing to fault.
Again...in many states, still cheatimg. It can affect the divorce in her favor. It baffles me that people don’t know this. Until you are not married, legally, you’re married.
You can no longer sue for alienation of affection in a state that passed a no-fault divorce law, OP.
If you state is a no fault divorce state, the affair will have no effect on the division of marital assets, unless he has been diverting martial assets to his extra-marital relationship, and a person seeking divorce is not permitted to allege a fault-based ground (e.g. adultery, abandonment or cruelty).
In a "no fault" state, fault can be considered by a court in order to make a disproportionate award of assets. But generally speaking, it takes more than an affair for such an award.
OP, get over it, and move on.
BTW: Most of developed countries have decriminalized adultery. Only people in UK and US still generally expect total sexual fidelity from their spouses. Sex outside of marriage in these cultures is viewed by most people as sordid if not sinful.
Actually only countries governed by Islamic law, including Saudi Arabia, Pakistan and Somalia, strictly prohibit adultery.
Adultery is still illegal in 20 states in the US, typically as a misdemeanor. But in several states, including Idaho, Massachusetts and Michigan, it is a felony. Prosecutions are rare, and usually involve just a fine.
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Doesn’t matter. It only matters if your state doesn’t even have fault grounds and it is not even possible to file fault. Otherwise, she could potentially change her filing to fault. Most of them still have that, and on the flip side, unless I am wrong, every state is “no fault” because they all offer it as an option. Doesn’t at all mean she can’t change the filing to fault.
That would never fly. It would be laughed out. The "fault" occurred after the filing? Come on.
Worried about your 50%, eh? Ugh. Personally, I hope he got the suite.
If they did indeed agree not to make any major purchases, she has every right to be upset over him spending hundreds if not thousands of dollars on a fling.
It's called dissipation of marital assets, and the courts frown on that kind of thing.
Why is she wrong to expect him to abide by what they've agreed to already?
I don't think he's necessarily in the wrong for finding a new lover... If it all happened AFTER she asked for the divorce. I rather doubt that though. Odds are, it was already an emotional affair at best.... or maybe they'd already hooked up on the business trip she had where he supposedly stayed home playing Pokémon Go.... Think about it. Flying across the country and spending a ton of money on a luxury hotel doesn't usually happen when people have only been chatting on FB for a couple weeks or so. There's usually quite a bit more of a "connection" before that happens.
Regardless, they agreed on no major purchases. It's a dick move for him to be spending money like that.
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