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I've been getting to know this woman and she has a 10 year old kid. Turns out the father is not in the picture and she's not getting child support either. We were talking about what we're looking for in someone and most of what she said seemed reasonable, then she said she'd want a guy that makes more than her
Keep in mind, she works in retail, which is a low-earning job...so she doesn't bring much to the table.
She said she wants to cut her hours short, so she can spend more time with her daughter that she's been missing out as a working mom. Keep in mind, it seems any future man that enters her life would indeed have to support them. She already is considered a part timer, and cutting her hours when or if she's married, would just be...a meal ticket situation and considered a deal breaker for most men, yes?
Unless, of course, she's looking to be a kept woman.
I've been getting to know this woman and she has a 10 year old kid. Turns out the father is not in the picture and she's not getting child support either. We were talking about what we're looking for in someone and most of what she said seemed reasonable, then she said she'd want a guy that makes more than her
Keep in mind, she works in retail, which is a low-earning job...so she doesn't bring much to the table.
She said she wants to cut her hours short, so she can spend more time with her daughter that she's been missing out as a working mom. Keep in mind, it seems any future man that enters her life would indeed have to support them. She already is considered a part timer, and cutting her hours when or if she's married, would just be...a meal ticket situation and considered a deal breaker for most men, yes?
Unless, of course, she's looking to be a kept woman.
If you don't trust her, don't date her. Don't try to screw her, either. Just leave.
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You sure do seem to know a whole lot of people that live polarizing clichéd lives and that are exceptionally vocal about their clichéd views. Just an observation.
If that's what your looking for, go for it. Some ppl look for a stay at home mom and want to pop out a few babies. And if you're working class, the tax credits and exemptions help reduce your income taxes.
Some men want a stay at home wife. Some men want to have children and are hoping for a stay at home mom.
You don't. She's not what you are looking for, so say goodbye and move on. ( although, I really don't understand what sort of financial partner you thought you would be getting with someone who works part time at a minimum wage job.)
That depends. Is she hot and good in bed? Is she the type who will be happy to stay home, cook and clean and have more kids? If you are OK with that then this might be a good match. Otherwise, run...
Since you are all about the financial aspect, how much value do you put in a person? I mean, if you ever go down the path of marriage... what if your SO gets laid off or becomes disabled. Do you look at them as a meal ticket then?
You have to decide what you want. Someone who brings value to you as just a person, or that they bring their wallet.
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Well, what is it YOU want? I've seen this happen pretty often, actually, and it seems to work ok.
Single mom with one child marries a new guy, stays home and has another child or two, and everyone's happy. And then when the kids are older and in school she goes back to work or works part time while they're still at home.
I don't know how old you are, if you want kids, if she wants another child with her next husband, etc.
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