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Boyfriend asked me to stop being in contact via snap chat with two guys i had sexual relations with. That was the only platform, no inappropriate conversation, I told him okay but unfortunately continued. He thinks I wanted attention, but I dont feel I did. Dont bash me but I need advice. Boyfriend was/is a great guy but i ruined it but idk why
I just dont know why I didnt stop, I felt it was so innocent and harmless because I had zero plans on continuing anything sexual with those guys, he says I wanted attention from them but i dont feel like i did
OP, it sounds like you didn't understand that being in contact with these two men would hurt your boyfriend, especially when he asked you to stop. If the shoe were on the other foot, how would you feel if your boyfriend were interacting with two women he had previously had sex with, even after you had asked him not to?
Tell him you love him, you're genuinely sorry, that it was completely innocent in nature (i.e., as you told us here), that he is your one and only love, have been 100% faithful to him and would never dream of cheating on him, and that you had honestly just looking for someone to have a platonic conversation with. Let him know that you never meant to hurt him...ask him for another chance to try again for love, together, that he means everything to you, and that you don't want to lose his love?
To be honest he told me it would be be a problem, I listened for a while because I did completely stop communicating with a person he specifically too issue with, i just wished them happy birthday and that was it.
And honestly, I'm a very different type of person. I would be upset yes but I would assume that he would know boundaries so I wouldnt and havent asked him to stop communicating with past partners as we were together all the type and so happy. Past partners dont matter to me as long as your focus is on me and you're not disrespectful if you do happen to communicate with them.
He's been upset for over a year and broke up with me because of it. The day everything happened, I blocked them on everything (communication was on snap chat but still had them on IG and their phone numbers that I no longer used) but I blocked them and never looked back. I apologized and somehow havent been able to recover. He knows if he did it, it would have been forgiven a long time ago. He says I put getting attention over his wants and happiness but I dont even feel like I was getting attention. I felt so detached from those guys that I really saw it as innocent.
I've tried that now he tells me that he believed I settled and never liked him and I just would take any guy that came along, thats completely untrue...theres so much more to the story so much. I'm convinced he hates me.
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