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My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months. We are together for 1y4m. Two months before we moved in, he told me that he masturbates to sexy pics of women. I felt really cheated on and I am really suffering that he did that. He also told me, that he has a folder of pics that his photographer friends have taken of girls he knows and he used once those pics. He said that he didn't think of them, he just used the pics as he did hundreds of times before meeting me. He said that since we are together he used mostly porn and once pics of a real person( but the pics are soft porn). I am really hurt. He told me that he would only do it when really needed it and that he doesn't want any of those women in porn, that it is just the way he got used to do it since he was a teen. We now are working on our relationship, he swears he didn' t do since we talked 6 months ago and he doesn' t need it. Just last night we had a talk because I can t stop obessing over him masturbating over those pics and he said he will do whatever I want because I am the one and he doesn' t want us to end. He apologised over and over, but I still feel really angry anf hurt. What should I do?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months. We are together for 1y4m. Two months before we moved in, he told me that he masturbates to sexy pics of women. I felt really cheated on and I am really suffering that he did that. He also told me, that he has a folder of pics that his photographer friends have taken of girls he knows and he used once those pics. He said that he didn't think of them, he just used the pics as he did hundreds of times before meeting me. He said that since we are together he used mostly porn and once pics of a real person( but the pics are soft porn). I am really hurt. He told me that he would only do it when really needed it and that he doesn't want any of those women in porn, that it is just the way he got used to do it since he was a teen. We now are working on our relationship, he swears he didn' t do since we talked 6 months ago and he doesn' t need it. Just last night we had a talk because I can t stop obessing over him masturbating over those pics and he said he will do whatever I want because I am the one and he doesn' t want us to end. He apologised over and over, but I still feel really angry anf hurt. What should I do?
Why are you angry and hurt? Have you never one time had a sexual fantasy? That is all masturbation and porn are. Men are visual and typically masturbate frequently, especially in their youth.
In my opinion, no, you should not forgive him. He hasn't done anything requiring forgiveness.
Last edited by Petunia 100; 09-01-2018 at 11:49 PM..
I did. We even went together. She keeps telling me I need to think about myself more and that he really is willing to do anything for us. Most of the time I manage to enjoy my life and see the good part of it. But sometimes those images hit me and I go back from the start.
I did. We even went together. She keeps telling me I need to think about myself more and that he really is willing to do anything for us. Most of the time I manage to enjoy my life and see the good part of it. But sometimes those images hit me and I go back from the start.
She said you need to "think about yourself more"???
I did. We even went together. She keeps telling me I need to think about myself more and that he really is willing to do anything for us. Most of the time I manage to enjoy my life and see the good part of it. But sometimes those images hit me and I go back from the start.
Maybe. I thought of that. I wish he hadn' t told me, really. We were fine. Sometimes I feel that I'll never be ok.
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