Am I in the right to be pissed off? (dating, boyfriend, girlfriend)
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Me and my girl are both in grad school with a busy schedule. So I had an exam the next day, but made plans the day before for dinner that I forgot about. I am in class 7am to 6pm and am dead tired I forget what plans I make, plus I have an exam tomorrow. I told her about it. I told her I was going to bail and got crap for it. Girl told her roomie, my friend made me feel guilty, I asked my other friends and they made me feel like I was a dick. so I end up going and hanging out with her. I had an exam the next day and i did not do as well as I would like.
Keep in mind that was Wednesday now same week on friday night I wanted to see her cause, hey its the weekend and we are both free, no exams no nothing. Well she tells me she is too "busy" haven't caught up with her friends for like 6 weeks. So I ended up staying home on friday night. I am pretty pissed off cause she schedules dinner when its an incovenient time for me and we are both free on friday night, but nope she wants to catch up with her friends. LIke wtf I have an important exam that day and now we are both technically free but you don't want to hang out when it is a convenient time for both of us. I rarely get pissed off at anything, but I am starting to think I should have just bailed and just look out what is best for me. Part of me wants to just let it slide like it isn't a big deal like I always do and not to create problems, but then I am like no I am being mistreated. Am I in the right or wrong?
Feel mad and mistreated, but you did make plans, that you forgot about. She didn't commit to hanging out with you this weekend.
Dinner is so trivial. Exams are way more important it is my future on the line. if she was a good girlfriend she would have taken all of that into consideration and be a bit more understanding.
Dinner is so trivial. Exams are way more important it is my future on the line. if she was a good girlfriend she would have taken all of that into consideration and be a bit more understanding.
And if you were a good boyfriend you wouldn't make plans that you forget about.
That shouldn't be something you do regularly because it's inconsiderate of the other person. It's like people who say, "I'm always late ... what can you gonna do? tee hee!"
You both could use a lesson in being considerate and not trying to "get back" at each other. If you really care about her, I would write off this week, talk it out and try to start over.
I feel she should have been more understanding about the exam even though you had made prior plans, but I also feel that it was a bit unwarranted for you to make the decision to go with her and then hang on to resentment because you got a lower grade as a result.
Maybe better communication or not making plans during the week would help.
Dinner is so trivial. Exams are way more important it is my future on the line. if she was a good girlfriend she would have taken all of that into consideration and be a bit more understanding.
You should have thought about that before you made a commitment.
Getting pissed off because she wants to spend one night or a little time with her friends is pretty trivial too in the grande scheme of things. Cant you guys make plans for a different day? Was that the only day you guys had in weeks/months? If so, perhaps, you should reevaluate being in a relatioship.
And if you were a good boyfriend you wouldn't make plans that you forget about.
That shouldn't be something you do regularly because it's inconsiderate of the other person. It's like people who say, "I'm always late ... what can you gonna do? tee hee!"
You both could use a lesson in being considerate and not trying to "get back" at each other. If you really care about her, I would write off this week, talk it out and try to start over.
Did i mention that I was really low on sleep, was all day in lab and in an intense grad program? I feel like a good girlfriend would have let me slide.
I think she overreacted and you both need to grow up a bit more before going into relationships.
Focus on your study and exams, that's more important right now. If you are in grad school, you should know better.
Start using the calendar on your phone and make it a priority. If you had done that you would have looked at your phone and declined the dinner invitation because of your exam in the first place. It's a good habit to start now!
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I think your grade on your exam is your fault alone, since you gave into a guilt job by her. However, I definitely think she should have been more understanding that you were wiped out and not held you to keeping your plans. I broke up with my ex because her getting mad that I was wiped out after 12-15 hours between work and grad school and not keeping chat dates with her since I was dead tired got super old super fast. I don’t recommend trying to do dating, school, and work at the same time for this reason.
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