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To each their own. I take things slow. Sexually and relationship wise. But everyone is different. People should do what they're comfortable with. I've just seen a lot of people rush in, claim they are madly in love and then hate the person a few months later, lol.
I think people exaggerate it when they describe chemistry as some amazing unexplainable electricity over someone they just met
Chemistry is basically physical attraction plus compatibility and connection.
I also think some people use it to be nice..instead of saying I’m not physically attracted to you or I don’t find you that interesting or entertaining they use the word chemistry because it’s very vague and less hurtful to someone
Chemistry is that little feeling, deep inside, which puts a smile on your face and a little pitter-patter in your heart. You know it when you feel it. Tremendous rush.
I think for the quick date. It almost about your outlook. You should spend more time to figure out how to dress and talk. Sometimes, A girl who has attitudes that made the girl looks attractive.
It can develop over time, but to others it must be instant. They say women know they will sleep with a guy in the first 5 mins of Meeting them. So there's no real "building over time"
Some men usually bank on this method, hoping "I hope she'll grow on me over time" but it never does. This is true in MOST cases.
It can develop over time, but to others it must be instant. They say women know they will sleep with a guy in the first 5 mins of Meeting them. So there's no real "building over time"
Some men usually bank on this method, hoping "I hope she'll grow on me over time" but it never does. This is true in MOST cases.
I'd say I know if he's a yes, a no, or a maybe within seconds. But that could change. There are men I've met that I found immediately appealing and then they said something and I was like, "ok nevermind." There are men I've met and thought they probably were not that sexually interesting to me, but the more we interacted the more curious and interested I got. The best lovers of my life were men I was not excited about in the first 5 minutes, but they grew on me as we talked and interacted, at least curiosity formed, and then the sex was fireworks and I was hooked.
And here's the kicker too...even if I am good to go all the way to the bedroom, it's also completely possible that I could get there and have sex with a man and only then decide that the "chemistry" is a no-go. Sometimes the energy is just...off. In a completely irredeemable, "oh hell, this isn't gonna work out" never-want-to-fool-around-with-him-again kind of a way.
But after a first date, I should at least be feeling curious. A sort of, "OK, I'm intrigued and I want to know more about you" sort of a feeling. And no deal breakers, or what I call "Nope triggers." Once I've put a guy in the box marked Hell No, he's not getting out of it.
Do I really need to inform him that it was his disgusting filthy rotten teeth, which he didn't show in any of his profile pics online but which I saw during date #1, that the idea of kissing him made me ill? Really? How about "Sorry, not feeling any chemistry, best of luck!" instead... Or if it's some ideological thing, like he's a gun nut, if I told him that was the reason I didn't want to date him that gives him the chance to start some stupid debate. Like he's going to argue me into changing my mind? I respect his/anyone's right to have guns and be into that, but it's not my thing and I have personal reasons to not want that in my life. I'm not judging some dude as being less-than or wrong just because I don't want to date him.
So yeah, you say "no chemistry" and it's easier and probably 90% of the time it's a substitute for an explanation that someone is not really obligated to spend time making.
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