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Sounds like you gave yourself the answer. Sometimes we just have to think out loud for it to make sense.
Yup. I responded back and told him that I was flattered that he asked, but I don’t think meeting up again would be a good idea. I’m sure he’s fine with that and at least he knows he made an attempt.
Yup. I responded back and told him that I was flattered that he asked, but I don’t think meeting up again would be a good idea. I’m sure he’s fine with that and at least he knows he made an attempt.
Man, now we won't see a future post of how well it went at that meeting
A guy I briefly dated 12 years ago has recently contacted me a few times over social media. He first contacted me on social media 6 years ago, but I didn’t see the message until three years later. I did respond, but he didn’t see my message until two years later (which was last summer). So we exchanged a few messages last summer (just polite “how have you been” stuff) and I thought that was it. Then he sent me a “hope you’re well” message several months later a few weeks before Christmas and I sent a polite response back, but thought that was it. Then today, I got a message from him asking if I’d like to meet for coffee.
Once again, I haven’t seen or spoken to this person in 12 years. We aren’t friends on social media, he just contacted me randomly. I don’t really remember much about him but luckily I have an old journal where I did mention him so in reading that, I found out that we had eight dates 12 years ago. I was getting annoyed because he was taking a really long time to kiss me and I felt like there wasn’t much chemistry between us, but then after he finally kissed me (on our 7th date), I still wasn’t really into him. I don’t see a journal entry about how I ended things with him, but I’m assuming I told him that I didn’t think we were right for each other or something. I started dating someone else a few months later and never regretted my decision to move on.
I don’t know if he’s just feeling lonely since it’s around the holidays but I’m not sure why he wants to see me again. It’s not like we had that great of a time together. But I also feel bad about rejecting him because he seems like a nice guy, and I know that I’ve thought about people from my past too and would like to see some of them again. But I really don’t think there’s a chance that I’m going to fall for him this time around considering that I wasn’t interested back then, so I don’t really want to waste his time by accepting the coffee date. But I’m also not dating anyone else at the moment, so I wonder if I should just meet with him anyway?
Women: Would you go if you were single?
Men: If you contacted a woman after so many years, would you rather her turn you down or meet with you anyway even though she’s pretty sure that she’s not interested in you? Would you want to have one last shot to change her mind anyway?
Don't meet with him if this is really the case. Don't waste your time or his, sounds like it wasn't meant to be from the get go. Move forward with your life and don't look back.
A guy I briefly dated 12 years ago has recently contacted me a few times over social media. He first contacted me on social media 6 years ago, but I didn’t see the message until three years later. I did respond, but he didn’t see my message until two years later (which was last summer). So we exchanged a few messages last summer (just polite “how have you been” stuff) and I thought that was it. Then he sent me a “hope you’re well” message several months later a few weeks before Christmas and I sent a polite response back, but thought that was it. Then today, I got a message from him asking if I’d like to meet for coffee.
Once again, I haven’t seen or spoken to this person in 12 years. We aren’t friends on social media, he just contacted me randomly. I don’t really remember much about him but luckily I have an old journal where I did mention him so in reading that, I found out that we had eight dates 12 years ago. I was getting annoyed because he was taking a really long time to kiss me and I felt like there wasn’t much chemistry between us, but then after he finally kissed me (on our 7th date), I still wasn’t really into him. I don’t see a journal entry about how I ended things with him, but I’m assuming I told him that I didn’t think we were right for each other or something. I started dating someone else a few months later and never regretted my decision to move on.
I don’t know if he’s just feeling lonely since it’s around the holidays but I’m not sure why he wants to see me again. It’s not like we had that great of a time together. But I also feel bad about rejecting him because he seems like a nice guy, and I know that I’ve thought about people from my past too and would like to see some of them again. But I really don’t think there’s a chance that I’m going to fall for him this time around considering that I wasn’t interested back then, so I don’t really want to waste his time by accepting the coffee date. But I’m also not dating anyone else at the moment, so I wonder if I should just meet with him anyway?
Women: Would you go if you were single?
Men: If you contacted a woman after so many years, would you rather her turn you down or meet with you anyway even though she’s pretty sure that she’s not interested in you? Would you want to have one last shot to change her mind anyway?
People can change a helluva lot in 12 years. Worth a shot. What else do you have to do on your Saturday night?
When I was single I invited a lot of gals out to dinner, or to my house for dinner... for good food and friendly conversation. I hope they didn't consider it a waste of time. Thirty years later and I'm still friends with a couple of them. Some I didn't kiss (deeply) either, not because I didn't like them, but because I preferred to just keep them as friends. You're not going to fall in love with everyone, but that doesn't mean you can't become good friends.
Some of you are so worried that a relationship won't become an epic love story that you're missing out on friendships. Just make it clear. I did from the start. "I think we'd be better friends than lovers. Okay?"
When I was single I invited a lot of gals out to dinner, or to my house for dinner... for good food and friendly conversation. I hope they didn't consider it a waste of time. Thirty years later and I'm still friends with a couple of them. Some I didn't kiss (deeply) either, not because I didn't like them, but because I preferred to just keep them as friends. You're not going to fall in love with everyone, but that doesn't mean you can't become good friends.
Some of you are so worried that a relationship won't become an epic love story that you're missing out on friendships. Just make it clear. I did from the start. "I think we'd be better friends than lovers. Okay?"
Those kinds of “friendships” don’t work for me. Either the guy will want to take things further or once he gets a girlfriend, things will change. So no thanks.
Me and my bf knew each other in high school. We graduated over 25 years ago. I remember we used to have arguments about a variety of different things in class because we didn't agree on stuff back then. But we met up again on social media and long story short we've been together now close to a year. We're both really different people now, after all of our life experiences. But I can honestly say that, having a shared past with him and knowing him already has gone a long way toward making this relationship stronger for me. He's not just some random that I met online. He's a former classmate that I've known since we were kids. My best friend was friends with him back then and I love the fact that they already know each other and are comfortable. The whole thing just feels awesome and I'm so glad I gave him a chance and met him for drinks when he asked. I didn't think much of him back in the day, but he's really wonderful as an adult with life experience.
Me and my bf knew each other in high school. We graduated over 25 years ago. I remember we used to have arguments about a variety of different things in class because we didn't agree on stuff back then. But we met up again on social media and long story short we've been together now close to a year. We're both really different people now, after all of our life experiences. But I can honestly say that, having a shared past with him and knowing him already has gone a long way toward making this relationship stronger for me. He's not just some random that I met online. He's a former classmate that I've known since we were kids. My best friend was friends with him back then and I love the fact that they already know each other and are comfortable. The whole thing just feels awesome and I'm so glad I gave him a chance and met him for drinks when he asked. I didn't think much of him back in the day, but he's really wonderful as an adult with life experience.
Me and my bf knew each other in high school. We graduated over 25 years ago. I remember we used to have arguments about a variety of different things in class because we didn't agree on stuff back then. But we met up again on social media and long story short we've been together now close to a year. We're both really different people now, after all of our life experiences. But I can honestly say that, having a shared past with him and knowing him already has gone a long way toward making this relationship stronger for me. He's not just some random that I met online. He's a former classmate that I've known since we were kids. My best friend was friends with him back then and I love the fact that they already know each other and are comfortable. The whole thing just feels awesome and I'm so glad I gave him a chance and met him for drinks when he asked. I didn't think much of him back in the day, but he's really wonderful as an adult with life experience.
Hhhhhhh,
Guess I'm headed for the reunion when it comes up.
I think it's nice that he hasn't seen you in so long and still remembers you. How did you not see his message for 3 years, and him not see yours for 2 years? Anyway, I think you should go out and meet him. Why not? He could be what you've been looking for all along.
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