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Why all this in such a way?To cause such pain in two people who care and love her, to her partner at first who doesn't know anything yet but he will figure it out sooner or later and to me afterwards who I was deeply in love with her for so many years and she knew. She was pretending to be in love with me also, not just a hook up...
So, your being in love with her excuses your actions? It's all her fault that you had an affair? Didn't you say she was confused, but had sex with you anyway? Doesn't that sound like you knowingly took advantage of some confusion your desire for an affair created in her?
You excuse yourself for satisfying your desire. It is this shamelessly confused harlot's fault! Although you knew she was in a relationship when you entered her, she alone is to blame for this mess.
So, your being in love with her excuses your actions? It's all her fault that you had an affair? Didn't you say she was confused, but had sex with you anyway? Doesn't that sound like you knowingly took advantage of some confusion your desire for an affair created in her?
You excuse yourself for satisfying your desire. It is this shamelessly confused harlot's fault! Although you knew she was in a relationship when you entered her, she alone is to blame for this mess.
Uh huh
That's what you figured out from all this? That I just wanted to have an affair with her? I didn't mention anywhere here or to her that thats the "harlots fault" and I treated her the best way possible even I was hurt I assure you.Sure we were partners in crime I don't deny that, but all the situation went off limits afterwards.
So you're upset that the woman who is cheating on her partner with you is also cheating on you with a third man? Does that cover it?
From what I know and read it is very common for women and men also to having an affair before breaking up from their current relationship is that right?So she was cheating on her partner with me being in love with her and I was hoping to make her mine...
From what I know and read it is very common for women and men also to having an affair before breaking up from their current relationship is that right?So she was cheating on her partner with me being in love with her and I was hoping to make her mine...
Sounds about right.
People who aren't very secure with themselves usually can't go out completely on their own, so they will start a new relationship, as security, before ending the other one.
It depends on what benefit she gets out of each relationship.
But you can't control or do anything about HER thoughts and behavior. You can only control YOURS, which is what you should concern yourself with.
People who aren't very secure with themselves usually can't go out completely on their own, so they will start a new relationship, as security, before ending the other one.
It depends on what benefit she gets out of each relationship.
But you can't control or do anything about HER thoughts and behavior. You can only control YOURS, which is what you should concern yourself with.
Thank you for your advice, another weird part is that from now on when she sees me she is acting like I am the one who caused her pain or treated her badly, I met her several times at a bar going to say just a "hi" to her, a person who shared many moments with and she mumble a hi without even looking at me as if I am a disgusting person for her.
So much so that you were stalking/following her....That’s creepy and scary!
Narcissists say these things, you can caught them cheating and they accuse you of stalking.If she wasn't doing this she would have every right to accuse me for that, but now I think not, and it wasn't actually a stalking, passing by from a road I pass every day and seeing her car there(small city)...
Thank you for your advice, another weird part is that from now on when she sees me she is acting like I am the one who caused her pain or treated her badly, I met her several times at a bar going to say just a "hi" to her, a person who shared many moments with and she mumble a hi without even looking at me as if I am a disgusting person for her.
Maybe that is what you represent to her. Maybe she sees what happened between you as a mistake. Maybe she lost someone she really loved by getting distracted by you. Maybe it does hurt her. Maybe if you never came along she would be happily with the first guy even now. She made the choice to allow you to distract her or not, but that's all water under the bridge.
Whatever happened, she is not happy to see you. Whatever happened, she is not with you. Whatever happened, it couldn't have been good, for if it was - something good would have come of it.
Maybe that is what you represent to her. Maybe she sees what happened between you as a mistake. Maybe she lost someone she really loved by getting distracted by you. Maybe it does hurt her. Maybe if you never came along she would be happily with the first guy even now. She made the choice to allow you to distract her or not, but that's all water under the bridge.
Whatever happened, she is not happy to see you. Whatever happened, she is not with you.
But she is still with the first guy "happily" even now...I didn't expose her to anyone,another weird thing is that she provoked me so bad with her behavior and she didn't feared if I would expose her to him or anyone else? She risked everything so lighthearted...
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