A weight loss journal (dating, wife, married, women)
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This is weight loss from a relationship standpoint.
I am 6'0". I was 164 lbs when I got married to my second ex-wife, I would work out everyday for 2 hours. I kind of let things go a little with her because she actually preferred a belly, don't ask me why but I presume she thought it would make it less likely for me to cheat. So I went up to 180, which is barely at the threshold of what they recommend.
After the divorce I was going through a lot, including a special needs child that only ate pizza and junk food and would refuse any healthy food and so I just ate what he ate. Here's the course of my journal. There are revelations here but I'm not going to comment on them, just tell the truth. All I can say is that a guy's weight matters a lot and more than for women I believe.
Jan 2016. I was probably around 200 lbs around here, this was the last time I got laid for 2+ years.
During this time I wasn't working out and was dealing with a lot of issues with my special needs son, including poor grades, him running away from school, and his continued picky eating. I ballooned to 210 by year's end.
During 2017 I went up to around 220. Women were not interested after the first date, they just wanted to be "friends" and said I was nice to be polite. In grocery stores people would say "stop blocking the aisles" and stuff when I was getting food. When I'd go into a bar I could hear the women say "I couldn't do a guy with that belly unless I was really drunk." At a frozen daiquiri place I was trying various flavors and one woman said I was a "slob" because I was trying a few flavors.
As a New Year's resolution I started exercising 3 miles a day starting in 2018. I went down from 220 to 203 by about October. Here's the various dates and "improvements" with women.
~April 2018: 215 lbs, dates go horribly, confidence all time low
~July 2018: Bought a slimming body shaper vest shirt. It compresses the stomach area. Immediately after that, I noticed more attention. Also gave me confidence so that was a big boost.
~August 2018: 208 lbs, women would ask to perform various activities on me (uh-mm), first dates to 3rd base from online dating. Got laid again. Hard to believe the "sweet spot" is around 210 I think. Above that and you're doomed (for my height), below and good times can be had.
~October 2018: At this time I signed up for a personal trainer. Started dieting along with personal sessions.
~November 2018: 203 lbs, women flirting nonstop at bar, all hugs/kisses
~December 2018: 198 lbs, women kissing me at a bar, sex on first dates
~early January 2019: 195 lbs, in grocery store people not saying a word if I take up the whole aisle and when I apologize they say "take as much time as you'd like and smile", maybe they were checking me out. At a bar, a woman mentions her breast implants to me and asks me to "check them out" which I do in plain sight of the bar. Another woman comes over and says she had a breast lift (she overheard the other woman) and wants me to do the same. I basically felt them up in the middle of the bar and others clapped saying I was a stud.
~ mid/late January 2019: 190 lbs: Gays start hitting on me (yikes maybe I need to gain some weight lol), women break up with men in the bar and then come over to me. Women say "I'll do anything you want me to do at all times". Women that used to ignore me now come by to talk and say they "miss me". The power dynamics have totally changed. Okay, now we're talking!
My goal is to at least get back down to 180 lbs, maybe 175 or 170. The attention at that weight or below would probably be a bit much so I may stop there.
It really is that easy guys, just work out and lose weight. You'll have so much you won't know what to do with it. Your weight is inversely proportional to your desirability. Lose it and get more! (and women say men are superficial but this diary is cold hard facts about what attracts women...)
As a side note, while I was "larger" I learned better game since I didn't have the desired weight but I still have that game and wow, it's working wonderfully. I feel like a beast now, an unstoppable beast!
That's fine and all, but you were still getting some at 208 so I don't really see what the point is here.
The point is that I believe weight is all that matters for men getting women. Women don't really care what a guy's face looks like just his gut. It's a sliding scale. At 208 I got some but not nearly as much as 190. By 220 you can't get any.
I'm hoping this serves as motivation for some guys to hit the gym and realize that weight loss is all that matters, assuming you have some kind of game.
The point is that I believe weight is all that matters for men getting women. Women don't really care what a guy's face looks like just his gut. It's a sliding scale. At 208 I got some but not nearly as much as 190. By 220 you can't get any.
I'm hoping this serves as motivation for some guys to hit the gym and realize that weight loss is all that matters, assuming you have some kind of game.
I guess? I mean, the same concept applies to women. It's why we have the term "butterface."
In general, people are more attractive when they're in good shape.
As a side note, as I got slimmer, women would start giving me tips. One woman said I had hair around my ears and if I got more frequent haircuts (I usually go once a month, now I go twice) women would be all over me. Another woman commented on what I should do with my facial hair. In the past I would hate to listen to this feedback but I started doing whatever was recommended and got luckier and luckier with the advice. I even got a tattoo that I had been thinking about getting, so many women have tats now so you kind of have to have one or you will lose those women that have them. You need an "edge" so to speak.
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