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Single by choice does not exist in goodheathen’s world, though. I wonder if he’s seen a film called The Lobster and allowed an obvious satire to influence his thinking? What’s deemed to be good for the majority is obviously best for everyone regardless of their individual ideas and experiences.
If someone is single not-by-choice, then it stands to reason they might not be very happy. True for both men and women. If they are single by choice then they are probably happy that way.
There are also those of us who would prefer to be in a relationship, but we are just as happy when we are not, too.
There are also those of us who would prefer to be in a relationship, but we are just as happy when we are not, too.
That would be a sweet spot then. Have you had relationships before, particularly bad ones? Is that a factor in your happiness being single? I wonder how prevalent contentedness is in people who’ve never experienced a relationship before.
If someone is single not-by-choice, then it stands to reason they might not be very happy. True for both men and women. If they are single by choice then they are probably happy that way.
No, my opinion is they're probably not, that they're content at best and deceiving themselves about not wanting more. Many of them, and many others, are engaging in unhealthy behaviors that are diversions from their unhappier feelings. How many of those happy singles are on anti-depressants?
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Single by choice does not exist in goodheathen’s world, though. I wonder if he’s seen a film called The Lobster and allowed an obvious satire to influence his thinking? What’s deemed to be good for the majority is obviously best for everyone regardless of their individual ideas and experiences.
Never heard of it and never said marriage is right for everyone. I've been making the case that it's best for society and a clear majority of people.
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No, my opinion is they're probably not, that they're content at best and deceiving themselves about not wanting more. Many of them, and many others, are engaging in unhealthy behaviors that are diversions from their unhappier feelings.
It’s sad, slightly frightening, and obviously a projection that you would be arrogant enough to think people who are single like you, feel like just like you.
We live vastly different lives, try to picture the universe does not revolve around your experiences.
That would be a sweet spot then. Have you had relationships before, particularly bad ones? Is that a factor in your happiness being single? I wonder how prevalent contentedness is in people who’ve never experienced a relationship before.
Excuse me....who keeps “bad relationships”. That is a choice....I have been happy single as well as happy married...which I am now.
....Are you swayed at all by my argument? Do you have any other explanations? This is about small differences in happiness, but it does matter if people decide to stay single based on false information. The million-dollar question that research probably can't answer: how does a mediocre marriage affect happiness?
In reference to what I put in bold: I wouldn't base my decision about something this basic to my happiness on "information." Buy a car, a power tool, an appliance...OK, "information," but I doubt that there is any reliable information about this topic for the individual. We are not as limited and stable as something like a blender.
One can only use common sense when projecting, if they have common sense. Insisting you know better than women -what’s best for them- is not common sense. You have now displayed this, repeatedly. Insisting if you are unhappy single, they must be as well, is projecting. I didn’t intend projecting in itself is always negative. That’s a different sentence altogether. Its not done with common sense, in your case.
I don’t have to read a link to know this, it’s what life and education brings. Reading random unrelated ideas and putting them together to come up with one’s own unsupported hypothesis isn’t common sense.
Just spend this much time and effort in finding a wife for yourself, and it’s pretty much guaranteed you’re not going to be so worried about the rest of us.
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