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You've already blown up her phone twice, and bombarded her with emotional confessionals, laying your heart bare, and so forth. "No" means no. Most parents near your age, of teenagers give their kids the advice "S/he's not the only fish in the sea". Good advice. You're behaving like a teenager. Accept reality and move on.
Is it wrong to lay my heart bare? At least so I do not make that same mistake in the future.
I agree. A 17 year age difference may not be a problem if one person is 30 and the other 47, because you are both mature, working adults with a life history who have finished your education. IMHO, a 35 year old dating a young woman just out of high school is just creepy.
Just think, last year she was still in high school senior and you were 34. Would you want your daughters in high school dating men in their 30s? And, don't say that she is "mature beyond her years", she is a college freshman. Sheesh! Grow up!
My oldest daughter is 14, so I understand your point. This girl is mature though. I guess it just wasn't meant to be? It hurts a lot though, almost as much as when I divorced my ex-wife if not the same.
OK, people, this is why this OP sounds so familiar. Just two years ago, he was after another college-aged classmate, desperate for our advice.
See, OP? In just two years, you found another "prospect", after succeeding in exchanging "oral" favors with the first one, no less. And despite the fact that no individual will ever be like another. Keep moving, and consider making it in the direction away from the kiddie pool.
You’re at two very different stages of life. Your primary concern should be your children and your education / job. She has too much life to live before getting tangled up with someone twice her age with two kids.
And, ick, don’t refer to a woman you’re dating as a “good girl.”
OK, people, this is why this OP sounds so familiar. Just two years ago, he was after another college-aged classmate, desperate for our advice.
See, OP? In just two years, you found another "prospect", one with whom you were able to exchange "oral" favors, no less. Despite the fact that no individual will ever be like another. Keep moving, and consider making it away from the direction of the kiddie pool.
This one hurts so much though, and she has amazing qualities. I feel so much despair, and what hurts the most is that something so insignificant can cause so much pain. I mean if this one girl I took the picture knew the destruction her picture has caused (my fault for taking the pic, not hers of course). Quite frankly she doesn't even know I exist....it's almost unfathomable.
This is embarrassing. Are you not finished with your community college yet? I’m 2017 I posted in that thread about the other “amazing” classmate you dated there, and the same advice applies.I’m beginning to think you’re just majoring in co-Ed’s. The problem is they appear to be more mature than you are.
You’ve already explained yourself. She isn’t buying it. Leave her alone and finish your classes already.
This is embarrassing. Are you not finished with your community college yet? I’m 2017 I posted in that thread about the other “amazing” classmate you dated there, and the same advice applies.I’m beginning to think you’re just majoring in co-Ed’s. The problem is they appear to be more mature than you are.
You’ve already explained yourself. She isn’t buying it. Leave her alone and finish your classes already.
No, because I am majoring in a STEM field (engineering) which means I have to take a bunch of high-level math and science and cannot be taken in conjunction. Well, she sais that she thinks we are on different pages, but she also said she likes me a lot and that she thought of something serious with us but she is hurt. She did nit outright say leave me alone, just that we are "better off as friends."
I agree. A 17 year age difference may not be a problem if one person is 30 and the other 47, (or one person 60 and the other 77 -think about that) because you are both mature, working adults with a life history who have finished your education. IMHO, a 35 year old dating a young woman just out of high school is just creepy.
Just think, last year she was still a high school senior and you were 34. If you had met her then would you have asked her to her high school prom?
Would you want your daughters in high school dating men in their 30s? And, don't say that she is "mature beyond her years", she is a college freshman. Sheesh! Grow up and date women closer to your age.
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Originally Posted by socal225
My oldest daughter is 14, so I understand your point. This girl is mature though. I guess it just wasn't meant to be? It hurts a lot though, almost as much as when I divorced my ex-wife if not the same.
Your 14 year old daughter has probably started dating, or if she hasn't will start very soon. Picture your daughter dating a 31 year old man. A 17 year age gap sounds pretty disturbing doesn't it.
Heck, picture your 14 year old dating someone just ten years older, a college graduate with several years of experience working and living on his own. Pretty scary isn't it.
I knew that you would say that your teenage girlfriend was an exception because she is "mature". I bet your daughter thinks that she is mature for her age, too. Let's see who she brings home to meet daddy.
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