What types of women tend to be attracted to 'shy guys' in your experience? (dating, wife)
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I know all kinds are, but are there any patterns/trends you've noticed? Either if you yourself are shy compared to most people, or if you've had experience dating men who are just a bit bashful, shy, but not necessarily boring or total cowards. I mean some people just aren't the life of the party and don't feel confident being 'out there.' I mean surely, not all women are attracted to over-confidence or even confidence, some might be attracted to the vulnerability or sensitivity of such a bloke.
Would most women, IYE, dismiss a man who generally does make the first move, for instance?
Would you say it's more extroverted gals, or similarly shy ones who tend to end up with the shy guys? It'd be interesting to see. Most girls who talk to me seem to be on the extroverted side, but sometimes I find it's easier to get a long with and talk to the shyer ones, who actually have more to say. And sometimes first impressions can be deceiving, like there'll be a girl who looks like a wallflower who tends to approach the most. Surprises like that make things interesting I suppose.
I've dated mostly men who fall on the more quiet, shy end of things. There are a few reasons I've always been more attracted to more understated guys, I suppose.
1. People who don't lay it all out there are intriguing to me. Even in friendships, I've always been most drawn to the understated types...I wonder what they're all about, and take the time to find out.
2. People who are more demanding of the spotlight exhaust me. I enjoy the friends I know whose charisma and communication style draws all eyes in the room to them, but in a partner, that can be a little draining.
3. I detest cockiness, never have found it alluring (some women do). For the most part, quiet guys aren't cocky.
Sometimes the above doesn't fit. I'll get to know a quiet, shy-seeming guy, and find that he's not actually understated because he's humble, etc., he's just arrogant and snobby, and doesn't find most people worth his time to bother with socialization. Or he's quiet because he's unfriendly. But that seems to be more the exception, less the rule. And then you also find quiet, shy people who are that way because they are insecure, which can be its own can of worms, as well. But again, this is not everyone.
Personally, I'm fairly outgoing...not a life of the party, all-eyes-must-be-on-me extovert, but chatty, definitely on the not-shy end of the spectrum. It might take me a minute to warm up to approaching somebody, but once I do, I'm comfortable talking to him.
There are a few women here who say they are attracted to the shy, socially awkward guy, but they're either lying to make such men who fit that mold on here feel better, or they're outliers in the dating game. If you want results, you have to play by the attraction rules that have been put in place since the dawn of man.
The strong, determined, dominant, confident man gets the girl. That's just the way it is and that's how it always will be. You can label these things alpha and beta (I believe most people have traits from both sides) but whatever you need to do to become that dominant, strong man, you have to do it.
There are a few women here who say they are attracted to the shy, socially awkward guy, but they're either lying to make such men who fit that mold on here feel better, or they're outliers in the dating game. If you want results, you have to play by the attraction rules that have been put in place since the dawn of man.
The strong, determined, dominant, confident man gets the girl. That's just the way it is and that's how it always will be. You can label these things alpha and beta (I believe most people have traits from both sides) but whatever you need to do to become that dominant, strong man, you have to do it.
I actually do like shy men. I also like more dominant types.
I like men in general.
I mostly could do without the loud, obnoxious types and the ones who spend more time in front of a mirror than I do.
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I like all types of men. Like someone else said, real extroverts can be exhausting. At the same time, shy guys can get a little stale if they are too shy. They usually come out of their shell when they get to know me so I try to give them benefit of the doubt. Sometimes the quiet types are very dominant. (oh la la)
I'm quite shy myself, but most people who know me would tell you otherwise if you asked.
Women who tend to have more dominant characteristics.
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