New guy I'm seeing made a comment to me that has been bothering me (women, friend)

[bebe182]

So last night this new guy I'm seeing was telling me how much he liked me and then threw in a comment that's making me wonder, he said "and you're very pretty, you're much prettier than you think you are". Now I've never made any comments about my looks to him or anything, so not sure where this is coming from. When I asked my best friend she said it sounds like he thinks I may lack some confidence, for instance I don't always walk into a room with my held an high and stuff like that. I don't want to come across as lacking confidence, I mean I'll be honest I may not have the highest of self esteems and I have insecurities like everyone else, but I didn't realize it was coming across so strongly. So do you guys think that's what he meant or could it be just something he said without thinking? I could ask him but I really don't want to bring it up to him.

[ADogNamedSam]

I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, what he said seemed to come out a little awkwardly.


I think he meant some women parade around like they KNOW they're all that and a bag of chips, but you are not like that.

[SVTLightning]

I think you should just accept it as a compliment and not over think this.

[Carly1983]

I agree that it sounds like a well-meaning comment, maybe he thinks you lack a bit of confidence sometimes (we all can on occasion.)

[stanley-88888888]

you mite be rite to obsess; but, my take on it is just idle hitting on you. like youre so pretty, you can make any man do your bidding and you dont even realize it ?

[reneeh63]

He could have meant that you are "even prettier than you know" but it came out badly? I'd try not to think too much about it.

[Jdawg8181]

It means you are humble probably.


Take it as a compliment!


There are plenty of women out there who think they're the hottest thing going. It seems to be he thinks you're down to earth & humble.

[hawaiiancoconut]

Red flag! Get a restraining order ASAP!

[jobaba]

Sounds to me like you're a good match. And I mean that in a good way.

You're concerned about this sort of thing and he knows that you are and is trying to complement you while not making it seem like he's trying to feed your ego.

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by bebe182

So last night this new guy I'm seeing was telling me how much he liked me and then threw in a comment that's making me wonder, he said "and you're very pretty, you're much prettier than you think you are". .

I would think that comment was condescending and patronizing. It wouldn't sit well with me. He seems to think you need his blessing in your life or something. Like 'you poor little thing you need a compliment.' Yuck.