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He has a hobby AND it gives him exercise, and enjoyment. I would find a way to work with it.
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But how much of this that the OP has a baby due in January? I don't have kids myself, but isn't there stuff about a nesting instinct that women have as they start preparing stuff for the baby to arrive. I agree that the Irish dancing probably shouldn't be that big of a deal, but I also think pregnancy causes hormonal issues in women that make them moody. The question to me is how to address the pregnancy induced moodiness. Do you ignore and move on figuring that no matter what you do, the hormones are going to make her moody or do you give in to her demands even if they are a bit off because well how many times is she going to be pregnant?
That the OP keeps comparing it to a professional sport is odd. If only he were getting paid for all this effort.
You are clearly not a dancer. Dancing at a high level of technique is very much like playing a sport at an elite level, due to the physical skill involved. The goal is to make it look as effortless as possible, so it looks easy enough to do, but in truth it takes a lot of skill and strength.
OP should be happy her husband is involved in regular exercise and isn't sitting in the couch all weekend, drinking beer, stuffing his face and watching football.
You are clearly not a dancer. Dancing at a high level of technique is very much like playing a sport at an elite level, due to the physical skill involved. The goal is to make it look as effortless as possible, so it looks easy enough to do, but in truth it takes a lot of skill and strength.
OP should be happy her husband is involved in regular exercise and isn't sitting in the couch all weekend, drinking beer, stuffing his face and watching football.
A pretty low bar for comparison, don't you think? "Oh, he doesn't bring you flowers? Say thanks he doesn't beat you and bring his mistresses home." As if there are only two variants.
At this point we all are speculating. We don't really know what will happen after the baby is born. Maybe caring for it became his new hobby.
New baby is a life changing situation. Might change his life as well.
My longtime ex did this with RC cars. I put my foot down and told him there needs to be a compromise or I'm out. It was getting to be every weekend and I wasn't having it
My advice is to tell your husband that his hobby is annoying you.
In my opinion a hobby is a hobby not a mission in life.
If he dedicate so much time of his life to this hobby and put it above the needs of his family, then it is not a hobby but an escape from his responsibilities.
Interesting opinion from the OP and others. And women wonder why men don't want to get married and the marriage rate keeps dropping. It seems that many expect men to just work, do chores at home, take care of the kids and give up all their interests and hobbies. This is exactly the kind of thing that MGTOW advocates would use to push their philosophy.
I had a friend whose husband was involved with something similar that required fitness, considerable time commitment and expense. The children eventually became involved and it created a father-child bonding. My friend was fully supportive. She worked full time and had many of her own social activities. On the face of it, I wouldn't consider it a problem. It's only a problem if you are feeling lonely, your future children neglected and/or the expense is not affordable.
I’m sorry I just have to ask if we’re being trolled? The whole wife is getting jealous of a husband’s side activities is quite the cliche topic. Be it video games, gambling, drugs, drinking, fantasy/sports, etc... It is a common real thing for a relationship dynamic to want to control someone’s time and interests.
I’ve never heard of a scorned wife over Irish dancing so this is a first in a revolving iteration of the same topic over and over.
Moderation is the KEY. Some people lack that common sense.
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Originally Posted by SenorChip
My advice is to tell your husband that his hobby is annoying you.
In my opinion a hobby is a hobby not a mission in life.
If he dedicate so much time of his life to this hobby and put it above the needs of his family, then it is not a hobby but an escape from his responsibilities.
Good way of looking at it. My ex enjoyed helping people. The problem was he let these “friends” treat him like a doormat. He’d sacrifice his sleep and money that he couldn’t afford without them paying him back. It was his way of serving others making himself look like a good Christian. Once I got to know him quite well, he showed his true colors and ugly side. Him helping others is about fake as a sheep in wolf’s clothing. One red flag I should of noticed was I always thought he seemed too nice to me and his “friends” in the early stages of dating him
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