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1. We really were not very close while we worked together, definitely not like buddy-buddy.
2. The women seems to more on the wild side; her image on Whatsapp is her in a lingerie.
3. I faintly remember, that she IS married with no children. But I am not sure and don't know her current status.
4. She Whatsapps me every about 3-4 months; it's always her initiating the contact; I never contacted her. Conversation starts with how are things lately, etc., and always ends up going to lunch or dinner (out of courtesy I always obliged). Over the meal we don't seem to have any exciting conversation, just small chit-chats. Nothing else after the meal.
5. I don't count myself as attractive. I am 51. The girl is about 35.
I am confused about this friendship and persistent attention... I want to ask but it would seem I am assuming things...
Do you want to "assume" things? Have plans with that girl? Since you ARE going out with her to dinners, she might expect more than that. Are you?
If not -
What's wrong with saying NO in a nice way? Or saying that you are meeting your wife or GF for lunch - that should send a message.
Or that you have errands to run during lunch, going with coworkers, work through lunch, have a meeting, eating at the desk etc...
I think you should know all those excuses by now, but I have a feeling that you have some wild imaginations that you entertain in your head...
You posted it in the Relationship Forum.
How are you already going out to lunch and dinners with her, yet don't know if she is married? That shouldn't be a difficult subject to get to the bottom of. If you care enough to figure this all out then you have to start with the basics of communication.
Uh, really, you cannot figure this out? Sadly that age barrier means nothing to women these days, and she is likely thinking fun/ego-boosting vs lasting.
Easiest, low cost way to find out, next time walk her to her car, as she finally goes for the door handle go for it too, your hands will meet, she will lock eyes with you and you should be able to read that one way or another,. Or read the body language, likely she will step in toward you or pivot and lean back on the car, either way, it is an invitation. Assuming it reads as a yes, if you want her, man up, reach behind and gently but firmly grasp her hair, gently crane her neck to the side and lightly sink your teeth in a bit and tell her you want her...at that point you can probably take her in the parking lot (which can be hot), up to you if you want text her the next day or not. This is not that difficult, it is basic man-woman stuff. You are 51, you should know how this works.
... gently crane her neck to the side and lightly sink your teeth in a bit and tell her you want her... at that point you can probably take her in the parking lot (which can be hot), ...
Honestly? Probably networking. Getting the deets on her previous place of employment, intel on potential opportunities, etc.
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I thought I was reading an excerpt of Twilight for a minute.
