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Originally Posted by Lauraplante1438
It started off with me having my husband move out because he needed to make some changes. In the meantime I found out he was depressed so I told him to move back in and we could support him and work ilin the marriage. He then decided he was going to move back in but still be seperated. I did not think that was a good idea because I at this point wanted to work it out. so we basically live in the same house as roommates. Even his councellor told him it was not a good idea. My 15 Yer old daughter is very uncomfortable in this situation. She is not eating well and not sleeping and said she does not even want to be in her house anymore. Everyone told my husband if he wants to be seperated he should move back with his mother until he can figure it out. He keeps telling his daughter he is trying to work it out with me but she can tell he is not. He even told her the other day he will not move out and she can go live with her aunt!! He is very selfish. He does not want to live at his mother's he would rather live here and make me and my daughter misserable. My daughter's depression is getting worse by the day. I don't know what to do!!
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Originally Posted by Lauraplante1438
That's my problem. I have been a softie and pushover my whole marriage so he never takes me serious.
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The best course of action if you are truly finished fighting for your marriage is divorce. It's a tough choice but one that has to be done. My wife divorced her ex husband after 12 years of marriage because he cheated multiple times and they have 2 children together. The unstable relationship was hurting the kids. If not for yourself, think of your daughter. The instability she sees is harming her more than helping her.
All this is doing is teaching your daughter that it's ok to stick with a failed marriage. The way to see this a better way, is to put yourself in your daughters shoes. How would you react if your daughter was with a guy like that and refused to divorce or leave him? It would hurt you I bet.
I wish you the best of luck as divorce is never an easy option, but sometimes necessary.
--B