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There's this guy I like. He has implied interest for the last 4-6 months mostly subtle in being extremely helpful, going out of his way, etc. even when busy. Earlier in the week he caught me by serious surprise with some heavy eye contact - maintained for 30-60 seconds - and I'll admit my wide-eyed look probably didn't help.
He called me "kiddo" months ago before this started. Why again?
He's older but I am mature for my age (most people think I'm 40-50s by how I talk/mentally, physically I look my age 30s or younger) so is he feeling uncomfortable?
How is it that you two cross paths so often? Is he a co-worker? If so, it wouldn't be a good idea to get involved.
Maybe to him, "kiddo" is a semi-affectionate expression. But clearly, he doesn't see you as closer to his age; he sees you as significantly younger than him. IMO "kiddo" is patronizing, and a turn-off. I don't have warm and fuzzy feelings for people who call me "kiddo" as I pass into and through middle age.
Maybe it's his clumsy way of flirting. Somebody should tell this type of guy, that most women past college age don't find "kiddo" endearing or particularly respectful.
OTOH, maybe he wants to set you up with his teenage son. LOL!
There's this guy I like. He has implied interest for the last 4-6 months mostly subtle in being extremely helpful, going out of his way, etc. even when busy. Earlier in the week he caught me by serious surprise with some heavy eye contact - maintained for 30-60 seconds - and I'll admit my wide-eyed look probably didn't help.
He called me "kiddo" months ago before this started. Why again?
He's older but I am mature for my age (most people think I'm 40-50s by how I talk/mentally, physically I look my age 30s or younger) so is he feeling uncomfortable?
I don't think he's flirting. 4-6 months is a long time to flirt.
"Kiddo" isn't usually a romantic or flirty term. It's a bit patronizing.
How is it that you two cross paths so often? Is he a co-worker? If so, it wouldn't be a good idea to get involved.
Maybe to him, "kiddo" is a semi-affectionate expression. But clearly, he doesn't see you as closer to his age; he sees you as significantly younger than him. IMO "kiddo" is patronizing, and a turn-off. I don't have warm and fuzzy feelings for people who call me "kiddo" as I pass into and through middle age.
Maybe it's his clumsy way of flirting. Somebody should tell this type of guy, that most women past college age don't find "kiddo" endearing or particularly respectful.
OTOH, maybe he wants to set you up with his teenage son. LOL!
No, not colleagues. Passing friends.
What I bolded is the major issue. Though there's people who see me as older than I am by my talking, more people put me as younger than I am visually.
No, like said, he's given indication he's interested. Particularly earlier in the week.
And no passing friends. You know people I'd hang out with.
Age gap is 12+ years.
Given that 12 years insisted that big of an age gap I'm not sure what to think. That said I don't know really of any guy that I've know that is around 43 calling women "kiddo", I'm 50 and I wouldn't use that term, not saying that that is true across the board for all people but that term to me isn't something I'd say to a woman that I was interested in and sort of near my age group.
I'd vote friend zone. Sorry if that isn't the response the OP wants to hear.
I agree with what you guys are saying to degree. Except 4-6 months is more to get a feel for one another. The last few weeks have been different.
I think it's either as you said he's not interested. Or due to something that happened earlier in the week - two encounters actually between us - he *is* interested he just isn't 100% on my feelings, his feelings and/or feels he shouldn't be due to the age and he's trying the "kiddo" to put distance.
He called me "kiddo" months ago before this started. Why again?
He's older but I am mature for my age (most people think I'm 40-50s by how I talk/mentally, physically I look my age 30s or younger) so is he feeling uncomfortable?
I don't understand what your vocabulary has to do with your maturity / stage of life.
"Kiddo" is not a flirtatious pet name, unless he's implying that he likes how much younger you are. Which I would consider waaay creepy but there are differences of opinion on that, I guess.
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It's a bit patronizing.
