Ghosted her and then received a nasty message (personality, internet, experiences)

[Petunia 100]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

Then are we all agreeing its ok to be nasty to someone if he doesnt message us after a few days?

Heck no.

I disagree with those who say the OP was rude. They exchanged a few messages, that is all. The conversation fizzled. OP was not obligated to message her again and say "Hi, Sally. You know, I'm just not finding you very interesting. Ta ta!" Plus, she could have easily messaged him and asked him some questions. That's how conversation works. She chose to not bother.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

Then are we all agreeing its ok to be nasty to someone if he doesnt message us after a few days?

No one has said that.

[moongirl00]

Originally Posted by BirdieBelle

No one has said that.

Then we agree its not ok to be nasty to someone when they havent messaged for a few days?

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

Then we agree its not ok to be nasty to someone when they havent messaged for a few days?

I haven't seen anyone say otherwise.

Originally Posted by BirdieBelle

I don't see the need to be nasty in a message...

Originally Posted by MPowering1

A few days had gone by and instead of reaching out kindly, she reached out and blasted him. That's not normal ...

Originally Posted by BirdieBelle

I'm not arguing that what she did was right...

[moongirl00]

Your language is kind of mealy mouthed, but fair enough.

So, its NOT ok to lash out hatefully when someone doesnt get a message in a few days.

It was like pulling teeth but we finally agree on something.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

Your language is kind of mealy mouthed, but fair enough.

So, its NOT ok to lash out hatefully when someone doesnt get a message in a few days.

It was like pulling teeth but we finally agree on something.

I'm just not getting the point of drawing out something that's a given.

Do we have to also decide whether the OP was chatting with a woman from an app, and that his username is iron_stick??

The fact that her message was rude was clearly established in the first post. This line of questioning is just uselessly pedantic, at this point.

[moongirl00]

I got the point established that I wanted to.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

I got the point established that I wanted to.

The OP established this point, and 99% of the responders backed him up.

[moongirl00]

Originally Posted by BirdieBelle

The OP established this point, and 99% of the responders backed him up.

65% maybe, not sure. There were mixed replies. Anyway you can have the last word. I just wanted a consensus on whether or not its ok to lash out nastily when someone hasnt messaged you in a few days. I feel a bit satisfied now that there is one.

Unless 10 people chime in now and say OP was totally wrong and deserved it.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by moongirl00

I feel a bit satisfied now that there is one.

Yes, that's the goal here.