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No, I had noticed that she had pictures of a local roller derby league. I actually knew someone that was a team player there...was trying to segway (segue?) into that. But she stopped it there by pointing out how it's a social fax paux to Facebook creep someone's photos from years ago. I knew nothing of such etiquette.
Yeah, so? I didn't even know how old they were. It's on Facebook...so...that's on her. If it creeps you out, then maybe one shouldn't be on social media as it comes with the territory. Oddly enough, I wasn't even a stranger to her anymore at that point such as the post is talking about.
Must be a generational thing to find this unacceptable. Per the original poster, the "approach" appears to be a mine field. lol
I would see these, "How do I do this without appearing creepy..." posts has become the dating narrative/common question when approaching women. "How can I do "this and that" without it coming off as creepy?"
I don't think you did anything "unacceptable" but I can see her point of view. She doesn't know whether you just briefly scrolled through her Facebook history or if you were obsessively ogling her pictures all day, and apparently assumed the worst.
Why didn't you just ask her out on a date, since you had already met in person and had mutual friends?
Oh the horror of a man scrolling through photos of a woman he finds attractive.
Scroll away, just don't make the mistake of telling her! Of course she understands that you were spending your time digging through years of her FB history and looking for photos to...whatever. Yuck.
Scroll away, just don't make the mistake of telling her!
Yep. Why not just go ahead and ask her how Aunt Susan enjoyed her Alaskan cruise in 2012?
Instinctively knowing NOT to tell someone you looked at all their FB photos is the kind of thing that separates the successful from those who wonder why they're not successful.
Yep. Why not just go ahead and ask her how Aunt Susan enjoyed her Alaskan cruise in 2012?
Instinctively knowing NOT to tell someone you looked at all their FB photos is the kind of thing that separates the successful from those who wonder why they're not successful.
Yep. Why not just go ahead and ask her how Aunt Susan enjoyed her Alaskan cruise in 2012?
Instinctively knowing NOT to tell someone you looked at all their FB photos is the kind of thing that separates the successful from those who wonder why they're not successful.
Depends on the woman. Some didn't make a stink of me looking at their photos and didn't freak out and had been able to have a mature conversation via such an icebreaker. Got her number and a date. No biggies. Some women just aren't uptight as this one.
To the original poster wondering if it's "creepy" or not to do this...bottom line, it depends on the person.
One time I noticed one of her photos of her hobbies and I pointed it out. She said she was creeped out about it because it was pic that was posted a couple of years ago...I wasn't aware of the date, but I was kind of astounded that she would be creeped out about something like that...since you know, you put yourself out there.
Except you can't act like you don't know this behavior is off-putting because some of us had this EXACT conversation with you a year ago:
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I know, right? I once met a woman at a convention, we added each other on Facebook. I pointed out something in one of her photos from so many years ago. I didn't know when, didn't pay attention to the year.
She said, "Okay , now that's creepy" and I go, "What's creepy?" She says, "The fact that you looked that far back into my gallery, that's called Facebook creepin'"
I guess it's an age thing, because I never heard the term at the time and I was like "Well, you put it out there, so why get creeped out by it?"
See, how creepin' can feel creepy? All I did was search your username with the keyword "Facebook." Not a crime, no, but some people think doing that is weird or invasive. That it shows an overeager interest.
When you're meeting people, you can do it all you want, but don't tell people about it.
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To the original poster wondering if it's "creepy" or not to do this...bottom line, it depends on the person.
Maybe. But it's better to err on the side of caution.
Just send her a message that says something along the lines of "Hi. I noticed we have a few things in common such as ... I would like to get to know you better, but if you say no, I understand and it will be no problem. What do you think?"
What is the worst that can happen? She will say no. For some of your cynics, she will say yes.
Leave out the part “I would like to get to know you better...” because that will raise all types of alarms in the girl.
See, how creepin' can feel creepy? All I did was search your username with the keyword "Facebook." Not a crime, no, but some people think doing that is weird or invasive. That it shows an overeager interest.
When you're meeting people, you can do it all you want, but don't tell people about it.
This is just standard operating procedure for you to do this all the time on here, Birdie. lol I'm sure you're used to digging up year old posts on people here to prove some kind of point. Shows you don't have much of a life.
And before you say I don't have a life doing what I did, that would be just an apples and oranges comparison as her pictures were actually readily available on the main FB page in the margins.
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Maybe. But it's better to err on the side of caution.
Why err? Why not be a risk taker. After all, some women may see it as a sign of confidence...and that in unto itself is attractive.
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