What job would make you not date a person? (wives, men, friends)

[MinivanDriver]

I actually dated a couple of mental health professionals, and I've known many more. I've noticed that a very large proportion of them enter mental health because they have such screwed-up lives. Same thing with child psychologists. I know that it's not a large sample size, but the three I've known have had seriously mental kids.

[chiluvr1228]

I work in the insurance industry, specifically disability insurance. I am always amazed at the number of clients that cross my desk who are psychiatrists or psychologists who are turned down due to their serious mental health issues.

So I will add those two professions to my "won't date" list.

[Seija]

Originally Posted by Forever Blue

gynecologist - Eh, don't want my man looking at that part of the female anatomy all day long...you know what I'm talking about.

Believe me, it's not a turn-on for him. I know enough physicians, including gynecologists, to know. If anything, much of what he sees is diseased in some way.

It's not the most pleasant profession, contrary to any jokes people may have about it. Many, if not most, go into it for the obstetrics side of ob/gyn.

[Seija]

Originally Posted by MinivanDriver

I actually dated a couple of mental health professionals, and I've known many more. I've noticed that a very large proportion of them enter mental health because they have such screwed-up lives. Same thing with child psychologists. I know that it's not a large sample size, but the three I've known have had seriously mental kids.

Yes, that is the joke--that people go into psychiatry because THEY have issues to figure out--but that is more urban legend than anything else. Plus, there is confounder in this equation, and it is that most people do not know how screwed up they are. The only real differences are 1) psychiatrists and clinical psychologists become aware of their problems because they have to go through therapy themselves as part of their training, and 2) they have to be careful of vicarious trauma, which is when their patients' experiences of trauma traumatize them. Other than that, there isn't much difference. Heck, as a woman, I'd rather be with a man who knows how to process and discuss his emotions as necessary.

[HappyFarm34]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

People who judge other people because of their job.

I’m one of those people. No way, I’m getting in a long-term, committed relationship with a guy who sees nothing wrong with working in a fast-food restaurant as a career. Low wages, Crappy Benefits. Erratic schedule that involves working just about every weekend & holidays. No thanks, I’ll pass.

Most of what people have already listed, I wouldn’t be in a long-term relationship with either.


Store/Retail Manager or Supervisor. I used to work in one. There was a running joke that they’re just glorified team members when a department is short-staffed and taking on the burden of work duties that needs to be done.

Restaurant owner. Many restaurants are struggling right now where I live because of COVID-19.

A recovery coach helping former addicts. Many of those people were former addicts themselves.

[ncole1]

Originally Posted by foxyknoxy

For me:

Police officer
Psychiatrist
Gynecologist
Tattoo artist

You?

1. Sex worker

2. Executioner (I am generally not in favor of capital punishment)

3. Any job that requires serial relocation without offering enough pay to support a partner through periods of joblessness associated with forced relocation. (I do not want long-distance relationship issues).

[Forever Blue]

Originally Posted by usayit

Poor Police officers... the dating pool must be small.

Well, I personally don't feel sorry sorry for them. Till the end of time, plenty of women will throw themselves at cops because they love the whole men in uniform thing. Plus, many cops have enough big egos for a 100 people.

Originally Posted by Seija

Believe me, it's not a turn-on for him. I know enough physicians, including gynecologists, to know. If anything, much of what he sees is diseased in some way.

It's not the most pleasant profession, contrary to any jokes people may have about it. Many, if not most, go into it for the obstetrics side of ob/gyn.

I know it's probably nto for most (& then there's always that small percentage of sickos). It's just a job for them too. I still wouldn't want my man to see it all day.

[tamajane]

High pressure sales, or any job where they make money BS-ing and trying to manipulate people for profit. Medical insurance adjuster where they try to get out of paying for sick peoples treatment is diabolical. I remember being harassed by one of these creatures after I was hurt on a job. She was using psychological tactics (gaslighting for one) on me while I was suffering in pain to get me to sign things. She would call me at night making lowball offers and vague threats. Even worse, the lawyer wasn't phased and said that is how its done and she is one of the ones who seems to enjoy it. When I turned the tables on the creep she seemed shocked and said she was just doing her job. I think she was a particular sicko suited for that type of job.

[oregonwoodsmoke]

Political activist
porn star
preacher of a religion different than mine


I've dated a hit man. Very polite and generous guy, but there was something wrong with his wiring. He knew there was something wrong, but not what, and he worked hard to hide it. Because I could tell there was something wrong with his wiring, but couldn't tell how badly wrong it was, I moved on. But he seemed safe enough when I was spending time with him.


I've got no problems with policemen, as long as they aren't drunks. And that would be because I won't date drunks, not because he worked for the police.

[brightdoglover]

Priest or any such.
Anything illegal.
C-suite type position.