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Would deleting an ex off social media deter them from contacting you again?
Had an ex who would reach out to me every 2-3 months. I would usually respond and a few times we actually would meet up. He would always tell me he missed and still loved me and then would just break up with me again. The last time this happened was a few months ago and a few days after meeting up with him I texted him and told him not to contact me again and that I was done. I then deleted him off my social media, have not heard from him since so I’m thinking it worked! But then part of me still thinks I haven’t heard the last of him, but that might just be because I have become so used to this crazy cycle with him. Would the deletion off social media deter you guys from contacting an ex again?
It would deter people who understand what a great, big hint deletion is.
However, it is always best to do what you did, which is to tell the person not to contact you again. Not everyone is so adept at understanding or taking hints, so being clear and direct is the most effective.
Certain platforms allow people who are not friends or followers to send messages, though the messages go into a different folder, have to be approved, etc. If he shows up there or contacts you again, I would suggest blocking him entirely both on social media and your phone.
I no longer use any of the usual social media sites or apps, but after a breakup I always blocked my exes profiles. If nothing else, it really forced me to hold onto no contact and to avoid the temptation of trying to keep tabs on them. I even would tell mutual friends they were never to tell me of any news of my exes. It may seem harsh, but it really does help with moving on. It's like they cease to exist, at least in my world. I know that's not always feasible, especially between ex spouses, but I can't emphasize enough the power of no contact in moving on.
Last edited by LaKings55; 09-13-2021 at 11:36 AM..
I no longer use any of the usual social media sites or apps, but after a breakup I always blocked my exes profiles. If nothing else, it really forced me to hold onto no contact and to avoid the temptation of trying to keep tabs on them. I even would tell mutual friends they were never to tell me of any news of my exes. It may seem harsh, but it really does help with moving on. It's like they cease to exist, at least in my world. I know that's not always feasible, especially between ex spouses.
Luckily we do not really have any mutual friends, the only issue is we live in the same neighborhood but fortunately it’s a big city and I have been able to avoid accidentally bumping into him thus far. Although I did see him walking out of a store a few weeks ago, he didn’t see me and I just sped up walking in order to avoid him lol.
Luckily we do not really have any mutual friends, the only issue is we live in the same neighborhood but fortunately it’s a big city and I have been able to avoid accidentally bumping into him thus far. Although I did see him walking out of a store a few weeks ago, he didn’t see me and I just sped up walking in order to avoid him lol.
Ha, that's happened to me a couple times. At a red light I looked over and saw an ex right next to me. I'm sure she saw me too, but we both just stared straight ahead. I also ran into another one at a library. That was fine too, just the usual pleasantries.
I think it depends on if this is the type of guy who would respect your boundaries or not.
Also I don't know that if someone really wants to contact you that a deletion off social media would help, however if the only reason he had been contacting you was because you popped up on his newsfeed from time to time then it will probably work.
You did tell him to not to contact you again though, which that alone should probably work better than the social media thing. Although some people might think you just said that in the heat of the moment and didn't really mean it. I guess my point is, a person can rationalize anything they want, so if he really wants to get in touch with you again I don't think deleting him off social media or sending him a text to stop contacting you would work. The only thing that would be foolproof is straight up blocking his number and any other forms of contact he may attempt.
This. This right here is the largest part of the problem
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Had an ex who would reach out to me every 2-3 months. I would usually respond and a few times we actually would meet up.
You are aware you don't need to respond? You don't find meeting with him a possible cause of more contact from him? Stop responding. Stop meeting him. I'll bet that changes things.
This. This right here is the largest part of the problem
You are aware you don't need to respond? You don't find meeting with him a possible cause of more contact from him? Stop responding. Stop meeting him. I'll bet that changes things.
I agree 100%. The breakup before the last one we ended on a friendly note, then he reached out when my pet passed away to make sure I was ok, then a few months after that is when he messaged me Checking in on me again and I felt guilty not responding. Once I responded and we went back and forth in text he called with the excuse of it’s easier to talk on the phone rather than text. He’s a good talker, and basically talked me into going to dinner with him. I gave because I still have feelings for him, I guess that’s why I rather just not hear from him so that I’m not put into this situation again. If he ever does message me again, I just have to be strong and not respond.
I would also add that phone numbers should be blocked. The exception would be if this was an ex spouse and you were sharing custody of children.
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