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Is that you? Why are doing this? Would you like to stop it? Are you someone who burnt your fingers, hand, and just about everything? Share your story to help these 'lost' people to stop this 'disease.'
What do I think if you are cheating while in a perfectly good marriage: Shame on your face. Stop it right now, and set up your life. Strong words, but that is what I think of you.
I am sick of a friend who did this, ended in divorce, and regrets everyday of her life, and her children are the ones still paying the price. Those that are in this find it difficult to end it, so let us see if there are ways to help you.
Go on and rant here. People can understand, and value your marriage. So let us help you. Get out of that rut right now.
Before going any further with this Thread, you better define "a great marriage" first!!!!!!!! I would absolutely love to hear what Dr. Phil or Dr. Laura would say about the title of this Thread!!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by amy234
Is that you? Why are doing this? Would you like to stop it? Are you someone who burnt your fingers, hand, and just about everything? Share your story to help these 'lost' people to stop this 'disease.'
What do I think if you are cheating while in a perfectly good marriage: Shame on your face. Stop it right now, and set up your life. Strong words, but that is what I think of you.
I am sick of a friend who did this, ended in divorce, and regrets everyday of her life, and her children are the ones still paying the price. Those that are in this find it difficult to end it, so let us see if there are ways to help you.
Go on and rant here. People can understand, and value your marriage. So let us help you. Get out of that rut right now.
Why can't we simply help people here? Some people just need a non threatening place to rant and find a foot. You don't have to be Dr. Phil to run this thread, right? They are not the only experts here in this world. If you need definitions, there are other places for you to find it. Why write here unneccesarily and waste your time? Only people who are in need of genuine help or life stories come here. Others just keep your smartness to yourself.
Why can't we simply help people here? Some people just need a non threatening place to rant and find a foot. You don't have to be Dr. Phil to run this thread, right? They are not the only experts here in this world. If you need definitions, there are other places for you to find it. Why write here unneccesarily and waste your time? Only people who are in need of genuine help or life stories come here. Others just keep your smartness to yourself.
yes but you start every thread like it's a poll--as if you are trying to find out about people's personal life--ever think that is why we are online? in order to keep our privacy
Amy, your thought of using this thread to help others is noble. Sadly too many marriages are ending in divorce because of infidelity. I've know people that do seem to have, and will say they have, a great marriage... that they love their spouse... would never want to be without them or lose them... yet have cheated on that very spouse. Why? Beats the heck out of me. Makes me wonder if you love your spouse that much, treasure them, respect them and your marriage and wouldn't ever want to be without them or lose them, then what on earth possesses you to go out and cheat on them.
Unfortunately, as well intentioned as this thread may be, doubt you will keep the smartness remarks out of it. I just wanted to applaud you desire to reach out to those in that situation and attempt to give them a sounding board and perhaps help (through advice and experience of others) to stop what they are doing, perhaps get into some counseling and restore the honor of their marriages.
Amy, your thought of using this thread to help others is noble. Sadly too many marriages are ending in divorce because of infidelity. I've know people that do seem to have, and will say they have, a great marriage... that they love their spouse... would never want to be without them or lose them... yet have cheated on that very spouse. Why? Beats the heck out of me. Makes me wonder if you love your spouse that much, treasure them, respect them and your marriage and wouldn't ever want to be without them or lose them, then what on earth possesses you to go out and cheat on them.
Unfortunately, as well intentioned as this thread may be, doubt you will keep the smartness remarks out of it. I just wanted to applaud you desire to reach out to those in that situation and attempt to give them a sounding board and perhaps help (through advice and experience of others) to stop what they are doing, perhaps get into some counseling and restore the honor of their marriages.
Yeah! I have been thinking on those lines. I am not starting polls here to find out about other people's private lives. My intentions are noble. There are people who think they are too smart, but those posts are only digressing and not encouraging. As a teacher I find lives of children sooooo pathetic that I don't know what else to stay. I am staying at home now, but when I go back to working, as much as I enjoy being with children, their home life affects their school life too. This post is on behalf of all those children. If you can really feel what I do, the sadness and desperation of not being to help those little ones, then you may understand the intention behind these questions of mine. Once I find time, I want to work in child instituitions and volunteer my time there to help make lives better. Until then, this is all I can contribute.
I am most definitely NOT making excuses for those who cheat, but I believe cheating is in some people's blood. I've known people who have been in very happy relationships/marriages and have cheated just for the sake of cheating with no reason for doing it. I guess you just have to hope you don't meet or are already with one of those.
Yeah! I have been thinking on those lines. I am not starting polls here to find out about other people's private lives. My intentions are noble. There are people who think they are too smart, but those posts are only digressing and not encouraging. As a teacher I find lives of children sooooo pathetic that I don't know what else to stay. I am staying at home now, but when I go back to working, as much as I enjoy being with children, their home life affects their school life too. This post is on behalf of all those children. If you can really feel what I do, the sadness and desperation of not being to help those little ones, then you may understand the intention behind these questions of mine. Once I find time, I want to work in child instituitions and volunteer my time there to help make lives better. Until then, this is all I can contribute.
Again, very noble and I can totally understand. I've worked with children myself and you are absolutely right in that what goes on in their home life totally affects them in other area's of life, school, friendships, etc.
A lot of parents think that kids can't pick up on what is going on at home, but they are far wiser and able to pick up on things than a lot of parents give them credit for. Many children just tend to internalize their feelings, trying to make it go away by pretending they don't exist and this leads to so many other problems in their lives later on.
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