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So first you say that you liked the fact he didn't make a big deal of it and didn't bring it up. Then you say you're now upset (or at least wondering if he forgot) that he's not talking about it and bringing it up.
I'm confused. Which do you want, him to bring it up or him to not make a big deal about it and continue to not talk about it? You can't have it both ways.
no he did forget, that’s what i’m saying, i don’t need him to bring it up often or even at all, it’s just that he forgot that and i thought sexuality was just a basic thing about someone to remember, so it rubbed me the wrong way when he told me he forgot that i told him.
Your sexuality will always be more important to you than to anyone else. Are you planning on having an open or casual relationship with this person?
I think this might be the case with the OP. I’ve noticed sexuality is more of a social identity badge now that it’s more acceptable to be out. Where I live, everyone seems to feel it’s no big deal. It might be the OP’s age…
Seems like you're over reacting and are a little to sensitive. Maybe he just hasn't had a chance yet since you're still in the just getting to know each other phase.
Seems like you're over reacting and are a little to sensitive. Maybe he just hasn't had a chance yet since you're still in the just getting to know each other phase.
This right here. You’re using your sexuality as an identity - he just let it be a part of who you were.
no he did forget, that’s what i’m saying, i don’t need him to bring it up often or even at all, it’s just that he forgot that and i thought sexuality was just a basic thing about someone to remember, so it rubbed me the wrong way when he told me he forgot that i told him.
Sexuality matters to literally nobody but you and the person you’re trying to date. He is already dating you, and unless it’s an open or poly relationship I don’t see why him not focusing on your sexuality would matter at all in a practical sense. It’s part of who you are, but that’s not the sort of thing that would actually really come up in a monogamous relationship once you’re already established with the person???
I don't get it. The OP wants a bf that introduces her to other people so she can have sex with them to. Can't strong independent women find their own sex partners? I'm confused.
I don't get it. The OP wants a bf that introduces her to other people so she can have sex with them to. Can't strong independent women find their own sex partners? I'm confused.
I didn’t gather that at all, and I’m honestly really confused as to how you would even infer that.
so i’ve been recently talking to this guy, we seem to be hitting it off pretty well except for the fact that he has a bad memory, which is fine, i get that but he forgot that i was bisexual.
i’m not the most vulnerable person and my sexuality is really important to me. i’ve has so many people say that’s “it’s a phase” or sexualize it and make me uncomfortable about it. i was really happy that he didn’t do that and was pretty chill when i first told him, even saying he would introduce me to some of his lgbt+ friends but i guess he forgot and i’m super bummed about it.
i don’t really know where to go from here and could really use some advice. like what do i even do? is he even worth a potential relationship?
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so the only reason I brought up his friends was to point out that he knows people in the community and people coming out, I'm not in a hurry to meet them I just thought it might be important but he apologized to me and we're going to talk later so I'm just going to move on and take things slow. the reason I posted was just to see what other people thought and I've been looking through other posts and I guess guys forget important stuff all the time. thanks for the advice though, I appreciate it
To me, something this big is a strange thing to forget. That to me is like saying someone forgot the color of the new car they just bought.
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