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Originally Posted by K12144
And I think this is an important thing for men and women to understand. Many men will only befriend women they're interested in. Many women will befriend anyone, with completely-platonic feelings. It creates a big problem when each thinks the other has the same motives they do. This is how you get the men who complain abou the "friend zone" (as if having platonic feelings for someone is a deliberate slight) or "she led me on" because he thought she also acted friendly to him because she was interested; and women who complain about men with ulterior motives because she just thought she gained a nice platonic friend.
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The sooner the OP understands this, the better.
Unfortunately, not even people my age often understand it. That is why I do not invest too much time in making male friends. I will see them at group events and parties, and I will respond to things they post in group chats, but I do not give them too much individual attention like one on one texts, etc. because then they get the idea I am interested in them romantically. The exceptions are if they are gay or if they live far away in another country (but no flirty talk) as these are situations where there can be no chance for a mistake or romantic attachment on his part.
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