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I'm in my late 50s new to midlife dating scene. Is it unusual after a fifth date for a woman not to appreciate some physical
contact? On a fifth date, after dinner we watched a film on my couch. She sat on the opposite side from me. When we parted and I gave her a hug I could sense she wasn't enjoying it (which was similar to the prior time). We had quite a bit in common, but I was so bothered I just let the relationship fade away. I asked her out one more time, but she couldn't go. We texted back and forth after that and then faded.
I keep wondering, am I unreasonable in thinking that something is wrong if we don't both enjoy some physical contact by this point in a relationship? I sort of feel guilty for letting it fade without a discussion; but at that point I was feeling I wanted her to be more proactive.
I’m curious why you proceeded to a 5th date if the 4th date was just as lukewarm.
Actually I was going to talk on a subsequent date, but she just responded about how busy she was. I just assumed at that point she was either not interested or still overwhelmed by her job and teenager, so I pretty much wrote her off. She did start a brief text exchange with me a month later,, but by then I had pretty much given up and started seeing others.We had quite a bit of common interests, and I started thinking of her again after being frustrated with a string of bad match ups.
Actually I was going to talk on a subsequent date, but she just responded about how busy she was. I just assumed at that point she was either not interested or still overwhelmed by her job and teenager, so I pretty much wrote her off. She did start a brief text exchange with me a month later,, but by then I had pretty much given up and started seeing others.We had quite a bit of common interests, and I started thinking of her again after being frustrated with a string of bad match ups.
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Originally Posted by Katnan
I’m curious why you proceeded to a 5th date if the 4th date was just as lukewarm.
Good question: we had some common interests and she was not high maintenance and nice. She was either very reserved or had difficulty expressing affection, except by texting photos (not the sexual kind ).
How long has she been single? Maybe she isn't ready to date but is trying to make herself get out there.
She has a teenager - that could be causing some issues for her if the teen is in a snark about her dating.
At this point you are never going to know without asking her. I think for most women they aren't going to go over to your house unless they are interested in you. You are at an age where you should have a pretty large dating pool. You will eventually find someone else. You also have the option of contacting her again, see if she'll meet you for coffee, and flat out ask her why she was uncomfortable with you hugging her. She may have gone on a few more dates with others and have more appreciation for you.
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