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I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months. I am 18 years old and he is 29.
I know that 6 months is not a long time but I’m starting to get worried. He hasn’t posted a photo of us on his social media.
However, he shares photos of himself pretty often. He posted one just a couple of days ago.
Maybe this wouldn’t bother me so much if he didn’t have any photos of him and his ex-girlfriend on his Facebook. He still hasn’t removed them even though they broke up about 2 years ago. I understand she is part of his past but I feel as if he’s ashamed to share a photo of us. He basically acts as if he’s single. Maybe he is scared, maybe he doesn’t want her to see us or maybe I’m just overreacting..
When we are together in real life, there are no major problems between us. I honestly don’t know what to think. I would like to hear other opinions on this before I speak to him.
Thank you
And why haven't you asked him about no photos of the both of you on his page ?
Simple question...."How come there's no pictures of us on your Facebook page ?"
You would rather ask strangers on the internet this question ?
And why haven't you asked him about no photos of the both of you on his page ?
Simple question...."How come there's no pictures of us on your Facebook page ?"
You would rather ask strangers on the internet this question ?
I have a coworker going through similar- she did not ask because she wasn't sure if it was needy or not.
FYI - she is going to dump him. In her case he stopped liking/responding to her at all even though he used to before they dated. It's a behavior change and he gets to be single and act like he doesn't know her all he wants now I guess.
Social media behavior is important. It's same as life but just on a screen with public audience.
I can be kind of onery. If his Facebook page is public, I'd just ask him on his page "Johnny...we've been dating for 6 months. Why don't you have any pictures of me, or us, on your page?"
As someone else said, why don't you ask him? If this relationship is going as well as you say, you should be comfortable asking him. You should be comfortable telling him that it bothers you that he still has pictures with his ex up. It may be that he is so used to them being there that he doesn't really see them or think about them.
He could be embarrassed by you being so much younger. A good gauge of that is whether or not you have met his family and friends.
Adult up and ask him what you want to know and share with him what is bothering you. Not feeling comfortable enough to do that is a red flag.
I know many people who are in long term committed relationships and they have no pictures of their significant other or even spouse on their social media.
Also, a lot of people do not clean up their history and just leave old flames there.
How he treats you in real life is what is matters. If it bothers you that much, ask him to post a pic or tag him or whatever.
I know many people who are in long term committed relationships and they have no pictures of their significant other or even spouse on their social media.
Also, a lot of people do not clean up their history and just leave old flames there.
How he treats you in real life is what is matters. If it bothers you that much, ask him to post a pic or tag him or whatever.
Overall, 6 months really is not that long.
100% agree here. I post photos of my son mostly and a few of me and my son (usually at our baseball/football games where I coach him) and few of my wife, that's not on purpose but generally I take more photos of him than her and I'm not someone who likes to share/flaunt my feelings for someone openly anyway (always find this such a strange behavior, people living together and separately posting "I love you!" messages on FB.....but I digress). I've had more than one person ask if I'm still married. Hell, I've had women send me private messages on FB asking if I'm single/available as it must take quite an effort to scroll through and find photos of my wife and I.
Yes, I met his friends and his family multiple times. I didn't want to talk to him about it until I clarified my opinion on this "problem". Thank you for all the answers
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