Well, are you a liar? Do you use people? There's a difference between verbal abuse and getting angry about your spouses/SO's behaviour.
Verbal Abuse: "You're a stupid rewho!"
Angrily calling you out on your behavior: "You didt think that through now the car is totaled. Fix it!!!!!!!
" or "I saw your text to that guy. WTF
?? Are you cheating on me?
People say mean, nasty things sometimes when emotion are high. Even the happiest of married couples still argue. It's normal. If he's constantly (couple of times a week) calling you names, tearing you down and generally trying to make you feel bad about yourself then that's verbal abuse. If he gets angry and questions you on items that you purchased that were not in budget (if you are sharing bills), you were an hour late to his brothers wedding etc....then that's not verbal abuse.
I remember my first wife tried to tell me that I was abusing her because I was neglecting her. "Neglect is a form of abuse" she said
I responded with something along the lines of "No it isnt. I just dont want to be around you, have sex with you, talk to you or be married to you anymore. That's why I distance myself both emotionally and physically." She even threatened to call the police and purposely lie to them telling them that I physically abused her. In my head I'm thinking "They're cops. They'll know you're lying. It's their job to observe your body language and facial expressions. It's their job to know such things." 3 mos after that conversation I moved and mailed the divorce papers to her.