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You say he is a "huge" part of your life, but he only allows you to see him once a month?
The only person you are kidding is yourself.
Get an annulment.
OP, I got through the first 3 paragraphs, and didn't need to read more. There are some very serious red flags in those 3 paragraphs. You shouldn't want to follow through with a genuine marriage, wedding, etc. to this person. You'd regret it and be miserable, if you did go through with it. Being married to the wrong person isn't worth it, just to be married. You deserve so much better.
Be patient, and over time, you'll find the right person. Take red flags seriously. You can get the marriage annulled, probably. It's easier than a divorce. Look into it, to see if it's an option.
You married in secret to facilitate a move to another country. There appear to be trust issues. I'd say your pretend marriage needs a real life divorce.
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Originally Posted by E-Twist
Get a divorce. You are married on paper only. If you can't let family and friends know you are married, if you don't live together, if he doesn't like you being at his place, it's ridiculous. He obviously doesn't want to be married except when it suits him. Tell him you are tired of pretending to be single, that you are going to divorce him and truly be single again. Move on.
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Originally Posted by Listener2307
I say, move on.
It will be tough, but you will have made the right decision. Imagine yourself for the next 20 years being married to a man who must guard his cellphone.
Here's why: We have been married 31 years. We have one email address, not two. She has a Facebook page, but I do not. We have complete access and signature rights to each others bank accounts. All property is owned in both names and financial assets are done "with right of survival" so that there need be no question if one of us were to die. There is a spreadsheet with all passwords hidden on our computer - the one we share.
Open access is fair and wise.
BOL!
By The Way ....... The only apology that really means anything is a change of habits. Nothing else counts. Many times, these types of people will promise to change. But they can't.
Yup Yup Yup. Make like a tree, and leave. You're driving down a one way street.
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