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2 months of being in a relationships with her, she dumps me. Her reasoning was that we didn't get deep enough into our relationship. Right before she dumped me I received a text from her saying,
"Hi baaaabe! I just had the best gym workout... Actually I think it would be best if we waited for more sleepovers. For me they are more of a special thing even without sex. I want to have a deeper connection with you before more sleepovers. Is that okay? I would like to spend more time together first. Sorry I hope I am not being complicated."
I responded with being fine with that however, I wanted clarity on what she wanted so I was going to call her. Once I did she broke up with me saying we weren't going deep enough.
The next day I texted her saying I just need some space. She responded saying the same thing.
2 weeks in now, giving her space and I still want to know what happened?
She broke up with you so not really clear why you'd text that you need space after she ended it.
It's one of the frustrating things about new relationships that end, but you have to focus on the fact that it's over and you're not going to get a clear answer as to why. At this point does it really matter what she says? You won't know if it's the truth, and it's not going to change anything anyway. You just have to lick your wounds and move on.
2 months of being in a relationships with her, she dumps me. Her reasoning was that we didn't get deep enough into our relationship. Right before she dumped me I received a text from her saying,
"Hi baaaabe! I just had the best gym workout... Actually I think it would be best if we waited for more sleepovers. For me they are more of a special thing even without sex. I want to have a deeper connection with you before more sleepovers. Is that okay? I would like to spend more time together first. Sorry I hope I am not being complicated."
I responded with being fine with that however, I wanted clarity on what she wanted so I was going to call her. Once I did she broke up with me saying we weren't going deep enough.
The next day I texted her saying I just need some space. She responded saying the same thing.
2 weeks in now, giving her space and I still want to know what happened?
She's being complicated.
That's not 'fixable', but time does smooth these things over with patience and understanding. Give her spsce, give her time, send some flowers, KISS ... Keep It Simple ___ and no big slobbery letter or text, keep it very respectful.
If she goes and never comes back, you can cry 'cause you lost her, or if this is a pattern then you can cry because you have her.
Men need to live with women with 'understanding'. Generally we're not very good at it.
Well my response when she broke up with me was very blunt and straight forward ending with bye and I wanted to end it with a more calmer finish if you know what I mean.
It should not matter at all what she says! But my dumbass wants to hear from her because I think about all the good times. We weren't together long enough to have bad times so that sucks. Just need to be busy with something else.
2 months of being in a relationships with her, she dumps me. Her reasoning was that we didn't get deep enough into our relationship. Right before she dumped me I received a text from her saying,
"Hi baaaabe! I just had the best gym workout... Actually I think it would be best if we waited for more sleepovers. For me they are more of a special thing even without sex. I want to have a deeper connection with you before more sleepovers. Is that okay? I would like to spend more time together first. Sorry I hope I am not being complicated."
I responded with being fine with that however, I wanted clarity on what she wanted so I was going to call her. Once I did she broke up with me saying we weren't going deep enough.
The next day I texted her saying I just need some space. She responded saying the same thing.
2 weeks in now, giving her space and I still want to know what happened?
So she wanted a deeper connection before 'more sleepovers' - nothing wrong with that, good for her - then you agree with her, but wanted 'clarity' on what she meant - good on you, OP, for wanting to have a conversation with her over it - and then she turns around and yanks the damn carpet out from under you???
What the hell sort of move is that on her part??? She sounds like an adolescent who is in need of some serious growing up.
Your only mistake, OP, was texting her afterwards. Was me, I would've gone full NC on that... she is unworthy of anything from you after that one. I would've made myself 'dead' to her... lol.
Sad thing is... her premise was good... but boy did she mess it all up.
2 months of being in a relationships with her, she dumps me. Her reasoning was that we didn't get deep enough into our relationship. Right before she dumped me I received a text from her saying,
"Hi baaaabe! I just had the best gym workout... Actually I think it would be best if we waited for more sleepovers. For me they are more of a special thing even without sex. I want to have a deeper connection with you before more sleepovers. Is that okay? I would like to spend more time together first. Sorry I hope I am not being complicated."
I responded with being fine with that however, I wanted clarity on what she wanted so I was going to call her. Once I did she broke up with me saying we weren't going deep enough.
The next day I texted her saying I just need some space. She responded saying the same thing.
2 weeks in now, giving her space and I still want to know what happened?
I'm going to guess she met someone. I think maybe she doesn't want to be sleeping with 2 people at the same time, but she's interested in someone else.
I'm going to guess she met someone. I think maybe she doesn't want to be sleeping with 2 people at the same time, but she's interested in someone else.
Yeah she could be. And if she did then why would I want her back right?!
Yeah she could be. And if she did then why would I want her back right?!
I completely agree. She flaked on you.
But you know...maybe if you want to look on the bright side...she didn't string you along, and she didn't cheat on you. Rejection is no fun...but at least she didn't do you dirty?
But you know...maybe if you want to look on the bright side...she didn't string you along, and she didn't cheat on you. Rejection is no fun...but at least she didn't do you dirty?
I would have rather had it dirty. My mind would be easier to let her go knowing those poor qualities within her. But it is what it is
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- then you agree with her, but wanted 'clarity' on what she meant - good on you, OP, for wanting to have a conversation with her over it 
