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Apparently some think so fondly of them they go out of their way to find them on the internet and bring them back in their lives. They don't even know them after all those years, people change a lot with time so it's almost like calling in a stranger. I think it is an ego thing and there's a lot more to it than just "catching up".
But you do hear stories of people reconnecting romantically after decades, so hope springs eternal.
Yep, but those I know personally who have successfully done that tend to be people who never actually broke up, like the HS sweetheart who moved away while still in the honeymoon phase(I was a military brat so I knew plenty of those couples, I was one of those couples a few times in HS)
Since those couples never had a breakup it is easier for them to start off where they left off since they have no bad memories of each other.
I do. Old age tends to do that to a person. It's fun to think about first love when one was younger and other relationships, especially the good ones, one had in the past. My first love is still around and see on the rare occasion, tho we're both not the same person we were back then my feelings soften when I see her, in spite of both of us having found our one true love as adults.
What youthful first love? I'm five years away from fifty and have so far managed to avoid any such entanglements. The trick is not to answer the call when Aphrodite comes a-knocking.
I don't know about "fondly", maybe "sadly" is a better description. Yes, I probably think about her once a week or so, despite having been happily married to someone else for over 30 years. I don't really wish it had worked out, as I can see now in hindsight the relationship was doomed, but sometimes I consider what would have been my alternate life path had we gotten married and had two kids like we talked about.
It must be old age but these days I see the answers to all of life's questions in song lyrics.
To All The Girls I've Loved Before
Written by David Hal and Hammond Albert Louis
To all the girls I've loved before
Who traveled in and out my door
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before
To all the girls I once caressed
And may I say, I've held the best
For helping me to grow, I owe a lot, I know
To all the girls I've loved before ...
To all the girls who shared my life
Who now are someone else's wives
I'm glad they came along
I dedicate this song
To all the girls I've loved before
To all the girls who cared for me
Who filled my nights with ecstasy
They live within my heart
I'll always be a part
Of all the girls I've loved before ...
My first loves never even knew that I existed. Oh well! At least I have the memories of some very romantic fantasies to look back on.
It was worse for me. My first loves knew I existed. They just didn't care. They all made it clear they didn't want their lives "ruined" by a guy in a wheelchair. That became a recurring theme over the past forty years until I just gave up.
It's interesting to see so many of the men's answers refer to having passed up someone they loved, and ended up marrying someone they're "compatible" with. They passed up the passion of deep love for practicality. I find that interesting. It's so different from what many women think men want. There's something to be said for no drama, though.
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