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After watching the Netflix reality series Ultimatum, I was convinced that marriages don't work for most people. I'm further convinced that future generations will marry even less.
People are staying in relationships with the wrong people and not able to make a logical and reasonable decisions based on emotional attachment and comfort level.
Without spoiling the show, it's pretty obvious many young couples myself including either settle or stay with relationships that weren't mean to be for marriage.
Anybody who did watch the show, what do you folks think?
After watching the Netflix reality series Ultimatum, I was convinced that marriages don't work for most people. I'm further convinced that future generations will marry even less.
People are staying in relationships with the wrong people and not able to make a logical and reasonable decisions based on emotional attachment and comfort level.
Without spoiling the show, it's pretty obvious many young couples myself including either settle or stay with relationships that weren't mean to be for marriage.
Anybody who did watch the show, what do you folks think?
What do you think the difference is between a relationship you stay in, vs. one meant for marriage?
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All I’m going to say here is the day you bring any sort of damn TV camera near a relationship I’m in will be the same day that relationship ends.
Also, the day I’m given any sort of ultimatum on the future of any relationship I’m in will be the day that relationship ends. I’m from the hood. Trying to intimidate or press me ends badly for all involved.
Most "reality" programming is nothing more than scripted drama. A lot of them recruit people to be on these shows with the promise of a lot of exposure that they can parlay into online fame and fortune. Very easy to see how people would create a character to play on these shows in order to get on teevee. So definitely not something to use as any sort of barometer.
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Originally Posted by cleasach
Most "reality" programming is nothing more than scripted drama. A lot of them recruit people to be on these shows with the promise of a lot of exposure that they can parlay into online fame and fortune. Very easy to see how people would create a character to play on these shows in order to get on teevee. So definitely not something to use as any sort of barometer.
I've personally known people who made it up to the final cut of some series (cooking, horror make up, etc) and the feedback was akin to "lack of personality" aka lack of drama creation. No drama = no ratings.
I’ve watched the available episodes now. Two more to go.
I know with these shows they are HEAVILY edited to show the drama and make for entertainment.
But from what I’ve seen, despite the editing, I think many of the people with this show need to work on communication. And that’s something I think many people in society can work on too.
For example, don’t leave overnight to avoid conflict. If you need to cool down, do so, so you can come back to the conversation more level-headed. But going out until 8am is avoidance, not cooling off.
Don’t talk over each other. Listen to the other person.
Validate feelings. I saw one person on the show, essentially “why are you so upset over this” instead of hearing why they were having that emotional reaction to the conversation. Don’t dismiss someone’s feelings.
Oh, and don’t go through your partner’s phone!
I think watching this show, while it’s a train wreck and people have a lot to learn about being in relationships… I think hashing these issues out BEFORE walking down the aisle is so important. So many people (not all) rush into marriage without talking about important things - children, finances, etc. There are things you can compromise, but don’t settle on the important things.
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damn TV camera near a relationship I’m in will be the same day that relationship ends.