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Just simply ask her. "Hey, are you still married or what?". She will tell you either way. She's most probably separated and if so, she still needs time to heal. I wouldn't pursue her right now, she will be emotionally unavailable to you until enough time goes by that her heart and mind are not still "busy" with her EX.
She's also living with her parents and her newborn. Not sure how eager her parents would be to babysit the infant so she can date.
Just simply ask her. "Hey, are you still married or what?". She will tell you either way. She's most probably separated and if so, she still needs time to heal. I wouldn't pursue her right now, she will be emotionally unavailable to you until enough time goes by that her heart and mind are not still "busy" with her EX.
For whatever it's worth, I was able to officially see for myself today that she's not wearing any rings.
But when would be the time to pursue her? When will I know that she's feeling ready to jump back into dating? I just don't want to miss a potential window of opportunity.
...Does it sound like she's single now? And what's my best option for making a move on someone who appears to be recently divorced or separated?
Not necessarily. She may not have even started divorce proceedings for all you know. But of course, it's none of anyone's business to know if she's actually divorced or not. I guess if she really likes YOU, she'll tell you the truth if she wants to start dating you.
But, if you ask her out & keep getting the runaround, she's stalling, or she doesn't seem to want to tell you things, etc., & she's not being up front by simply saying, I can't start dating yet, I'd forget the whole thing because she's obviously NOT ready to start dating again.
I wouldn't want to date anyone w/ babies/kids anyway.
For whatever it's worth, I was able to officially see for myself today that she's not wearing any rings.
But when would be the time to pursue her? When will I know that she's feeling ready to jump back into dating? I just don't want to miss a potential window of opportunity.
Being single and being available aren't the same thing. If you're going to ignore everyone's advice about dating a colleague, the least you could do is invite her for coffee and catch up with her with no agenda. If you're work friends, then she'll be open about what's going on with her life, but don't pry and don't be creepy.
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So, do I have this right? Maybe still married, or separated, with a small chance of JUST being divorced. This is recent. Co worker. New mother with infant. Living with parents.
So, do I have this right? Maybe still married, or separated, with a small chance of JUST being divorced. This is recent. Co worker. New mother with infant. Living with parents.
What in the world are people thinking.
Yes. So if you can't get her off your mind, do like everyone, including me, has suggested, and ask her for a coffee - AND NOTHING ELSE - just as you would a friend you hadn't seen for awhile. Don't spend more than an hour with her. Ask her what she's doing back here - after all if she just showed up you are maybe entitled to ask a question or two.
Don't think about dating, flirting, all that stuff. This is about two friends catching up. NO MORE.
Leave anything else for later.
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