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Incompatible. She just didn't like immaturity and wanted someone sensitive after what she’s been through and you were not attracting her but putting her off you. I’m not sure too many women enjoy that breezy, angry, dismissive, sexist, objectifying tone. It comes off as having deep seated anger from some other experience that is surfacing in child like ways. Since you are older than her…makes you seem stunted.
One thing is when I think a guy is “stupid”, I can’t take him seriously. Sometimes it’s an attitude or a joke or a reaction, or being unkind or disrespecting elders or blowing up at a stranger. Or getting into brawls or drinking in excess even eating like a slob in excess or liking dumb things or laughing at serious things or getting mad about dumb things or even a sense of humor- attraction is a delicate thing, it’s not forgiving. I am not saying YOU are stupid, but women just have less tolerance usually for immature acts unless she is like that and this woman is clearly a sensitive person so she needs someone in sync.
I find your posts off putting. I can see why it could happen in real life. She's made one mistake with a man. She's probably determined not to make another.
She doesn’t want to put up with your mood swings, which will only get worse, not better. I wouldn't either.
And a lot of people don't like complainers, even very low key ones.
I once mentioned that I didn't like a meal I'd had, to a guy who was a friend of a man I was dating who died. A few of us went out to dinner at Howard Johnson's (1972) right off the freeway after a trip to somewhere. I thought he was way over-reacting. I wasn't being nasty or rude, just mentioned that I didn't like it. He got angry and chewed me out. The man turned out to be a very snippy high strung person who my deceased bf had worked with (a co-worker). Not someone I would keep as a friend just because he was connected to my deceased bf.
When I complain about things, I usually put in a positive qualifier which works to mollify people.
Like I said, some people don't like complainers. But hopefully if this is a pattern OP, you'll learn to tone down the talk about things you don't like.
Some people clam up and then have to be drawn out as to what they are upset about. It seems like a cultural norm to dislike anyone else being unhappy about something - even when it is warranted. You should have been able to talk it out but... the Only Fans thing was a bit over the top even if others were being crude. Straightforward answers to strangers works better until you are more acquainted with them.
I don't think she called it quits over that. People get angry it happens. You're a human being you have emotions I'm betting it was something else that put her off and that was just something she remembers very well
Agreed. She wasn't into him for whatever her reasons and it was just easier for her to pick 2 or 3 negatives that she witnessed than to lay out the true reason(s).
Agreed. She wasn't into him for whatever her reasons and it was just easier for her to pick 2 or 3 negatives that she witnessed than to lay out the true reason(s).
I think people do this to spare feelings. I don't think it really matters why they don't want to be with you just be glad they had the decency to end it.
The comments you made about the old lady as well as your former gf suggest some underlying anger/hostility that you're not dealing with. She picked up on it and didn't like it. These things don't get better with time until the person recognizes what's going on and does something about it. She's probably picking up on this hostility that you seem unaware of. It probably made her feel unsafe.
I'm super chill I hardly ever lose my temper, but one of the few things that will set me off is someone damaging or disrespecting my property as everything I own I have to struggle scrimp and save to get, so most nice things I have are not easily replaced.
So I understand where the OP is coming from in the case he described.
I think the anger comments come from his escalation of the conflict. Even if he made the comment about the old lady privately, from an outsider's perspective, his words can be viewed as increasing anger within. When will it stop? When will self-reflection begin?
As the saying goes, two wrongs don't make a right. So, yes, the old lady was wrong to hit the car. But what led to that? It was the fact that he couldn't see things from another person's perspective. Here is what he said in the OP.
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she felt like I was going to hit her in a McDonalds drive through, (I wasn't)
That's a red flag in a relationship. It was okay for the old lady to feel like she was going to be hit. If a person is terrible at considering the perspective of others, I would start learning how to apologize. That is an attempt to de-escalate the situation.
I'm super chill I hardly ever lose my temper, but one of the few things that will set me off is someone damaging or disrespecting my property as everything I own I have to struggle scrimp and save to get, so most nice things I have are not easily replaced.
So I understand where the OP is coming from in the case he described.
Regardless of who is right or wrong, she perceived anger and it made her feel unsafe, so she dumped him.
Bottom line is, you have nothing but excuses for your behavior, and when you are called out on it, you blame the other person. You just keep being you, and you will get the same result.
Bottom line is, you have nothing but excuses for your behavior, and when you are called out on it, you blame the other person. You just keep being you, and you will get the same result.
Disagree, one doesn't need an excuse for the behavior he exhibited as it you shouldn't be problematic.
I don't think the girl left because of these reasons and I think she just lied to him.
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