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I’m happily married and just going about my life in a positive way. Occasionally I run into this ex bf and have a cordial, if superficial chat. Last night, out of the blue he sent me a message saying he was sorry for cheating, 20 + years ago. We were long-distance then. In retrospect, it was unsustainable. Yeah, it hurt, but it wasn’t the end of the world.
So what prompted him to do this all of a sudden? We haven’t crossed paths in months. He dates hot young women. I’m gray-headed and rustic. He’s not after me, obviously. Do you think he’s in a 12-step program and making amends?
I've sometimes seen these out-of-the-blue apologies attributed to the apologizer being involved in some kind of 12-step program, like AA.
Something similar happened with another long-ago ex but it wasn’t cheating. He was in AA and apologized for some rather fun times we had. I thought I blocked him afterwards but I noticed him stalking my page recently. No worries there.
People are weird. I’d rather forget them and move on.
You should have asked him what brought that on after all these years, along with "and it turned out for the best in the long run."
Maybe as someone recently cheated on him and he's reflecting on when he's done that to people. Or, as someone else said, a 12 step program. Or he's dying, or or or ......no telling until you ask.
You should have asked him what brought that on after all these years, along with "and it turned out for the best in the long run."
Maybe as someone recently cheated on him and he's reflecting on when he's done that to people. Or, as someone else said, a 12 step program. Or he's dying, or or or ......no telling until you ask.
He gave me a brief update, but nothing pertinent. It’s just weird, out of the blue, when we cross paths since we’re part of the same orbit. I never really trusted him re cheating. Too many opportunities and we weren’t THAT serious. He married the woman he cheated with.
She’s since divorced him. He has a silly comb-over hairstyle and flaunts his affluence, with young women on expensive dates.
He might have quit drinking, though I never detected a real problem. He looked fit and active on his profile when I checked.
I rarely think of him, but I was nice about his apology because he’s still clueless.
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