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To answer the question. Yes, we do alot together and independently. We live in a golf community and he golfs alot with the guys, as do I with my girl friends. And we golf together once or twice a month. We go to the gym separately, I am a morning person, he is a late afternoon person. We attend social activities together, as we are now both getting ready to go to a Christmas party. It's just this weird thing with going to restaurants. And trust me, I am as frugral as the day is long, but it's a weird thing. I honestly can't explain it. Is it the end of the world? Nope. It's just a quirk of his. Look, I realize how lucky and fortunate we are to be living the retired life we always dreamed of, so I'm really not complaining about much. It's just that we finally had "that talk" yesterdan AND today......about going out to dinner. And I cook. We have very cost savings meals at home and we both aren't appetizer and dessert type of people, so it's not about money. I am very conservative when ordering from a menu.
It's just that we finally had "that talk" yesterdan AND today ......about going out to dinner. And I cook. We have very cost savings meals at home and we both aren't appetizer and dessert type of people, so it's not about money. I am very conservative when ordering from a menu.
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He probably woudn't balk but...it's just a weird situation. I guess I'm not really looking for a remedy, but I really just needed to vent because for the second time, I've brought this issue up to him, and of course, he is sulking and I'm getting the silent treatment.
To answer the question. Yes, we do alot together and independently. We live in a golf community and he golfs alot with the guys, as do I with my girl friends. And we golf together once or twice a month. We go to the gym separately, I am a morning person, he is a late afternoon person. We attend social activities together, as we are now both getting ready to go to a Christmas party. It's just this weird thing with going to restaurants. And trust me, I am as frugral as the day is long, but it's a weird thing. I honestly can't explain it. Is it the end of the world? Nope. It's just a quirk of his. Look, I realize how lucky and fortunate we are to be living the retired life we always dreamed of, so I'm really not complaining about much. It's just that we finally had "that talk" yesterdan AND today......about going out to dinner. And I cook. We have very cost savings meals at home and we both aren't appetizer and dessert type of people, so it's not about money. I am very conservative when ordering from a menu.
You talked about the issue for two days and still can't explain it?
Maybe he is not good at ir is rusty at intimate conversations with just the two of you at restaurants? Do you have good/ interesting conversations during dinner at home?
And it's this one couple who are a great deal older than me (trust me, they have a ton of money and travel all over the world, etc. so they are not granny and grandpa sitting in a rocking chair and they do have an active social life as well).
Older than just you? Is there an age gap in your marriage/Are they closer to your husband's age?
Yes we communicate very well. It's just a weird thing with him. Not a biggie. I was just venting. Better to vent here than to really initiate WW3
It is weird. Up to you if you want to leave it. But you had to vent about it and ask if you were wrong so it's obviously bothering you and it would bother most people. It is really odd behavior and I would feel insulted and disconnected if my spouse refused to go out for a meal with me.
There's reasons for what we do, op. Is he so socially focused he not only likes being with other people but likes being seen with other people? Are you both so opposite from each other in age or looks that he's uncomfortable with the attention from others when you're out alone? If he's telling you its just a weird thing with him there's a reason it got weird.
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