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He said he spoke with her Sunday night, after he went home.
I don't know if he ever contacted her or not on Monday.
Thing is though, both you and your friend's son are making assumptions based on facts not in evidence and you're advising him as if SHE'S the one in the wrong.
Seriously, my first question to him would have been, "if you like this woman, then for heaven's sake man, WHY didn't you approach HER after she waved to you?"
He had feelings for her, and wanted an actual relationship.
And did he tell her this?
Or maybe she met someone else. Or there was a red flag that she realized later (or, she was on some sort of emotional endorphin high after a weekend of sex and playing house, and realized later that that was all it was). Or a friend warned her away from him. Who knows?
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But but but...... he's anxious and afraid! What if he asks and she says No! It would kill him. Rejection is fatal you know. There's never been a person that's survived rejection. @@
Faint heart never won fair maiden. He needs to put on his big boy pants and ask her on an actual date. He needs to do it soon.
I mean, if he'd rather let this go than risk rejection, then that's fine. Not everyone wants to be rejected, and it's up to him to weigh his priorities and decide what he wants to do. But, if that's the case, then he needs to own it, and realize that that's the choice he made: I really don't want to be rejected, so I would rather miss some chances than have that happen to me. Whatever he wants to do is okay, but he can't complain about it later.
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Maybe he’s just one of those sensitive types, and that’s not a bad thing. It’s actually a good thing and should be admired.
Don't we usually advise women in these situations to not fall immediately into bed with a guy, then?
So, are you asking/saying the OP is lying about this whole story, or his friends son is lying to the OP about this incident? If it’s the former, I don’t know the OP, or his posting history, but he has been a member here for ten years. It’s not like he’s a new member and possible troll. If it’s the latter, it’s anyone’s guess if the OP’s friends son was lying to him.
Or maybe she met someone else. Or there was a red flag that she realized later (or, she was on some sort of emotional endorphin high after a weekend of sex and playing house, and realized later that that was all it was). Or a friend warned her away from him. Who knows?
I mean, if he'd rather let this go than risk rejection, then that's fine. Not everyone wants to be rejected, and it's up to him to weigh his priorities and decide what he wants to do. But, if that's the case, then he needs to own it, and realize that that's the choice he made: I really don't want to be rejected, so I would rather miss some chances than have that happen to me. Whatever he wants to do is okay, but he can't complain about it later.
Don't we usually advise women in these situations to not fall immediately into bed with a guy, then?
Regarding your last paragraph, not sure what you mean by this? Personally, I don’t think it’s ever a good idea to “fall immediately into bed with a guy”. But are you saying these one night stands are not a good idea for some people because one side might take it more seriously than the other? And the result is hurt feelings?
So, are you asking/saying the OP is lying about this whole story, or his friends son is lying to the OP about this incident? If it’s the former, I don’t know the OP, or his posting history, but he has been a member here for ten years. It’s not like he’s a new member and possible troll. If it’s the latter, it’s anyone’s guess if the OP’s friends son was lying to him.
How long someone been here is irrelevant, or posting history. You never expected a priest would do bad things to children?
The facts in this story does not make sense and what is the purpose of this thread?
And since when does a young man would talk about this kind of topic/issue to their dad's friend?
I'm a close buddy of his dad. Dad and I are old college buddies, knew him before son was born. Kind of an "uncle", as a longtime family friend
And to answer: he says he spoke with her Sunday night. I don't know about Monday, but Tuesday he claims he saw her somewhere, called out to her - she turned, gave him a "half-wave" (his description), and continued on without further acknowledging him.
Again, I'm going by what he claims happened. I don't know what really - I wasn't there.
Last edited by ItsRick24; 12-17-2023 at 10:48 PM..
I believe dribs and drabs, 'cause I've had women flake on me in the past. Flakiness is a two-way street, both men and women are guilty of it (not all, but many).
I always taught my sons "regret hurts worse than rejection".
You'll carry regret for ages, rejection gets forgotten about quickly.
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