Weird coincidence (how to, married, girl, husband)

[optiflex]

I'm looking around myspace and I happen across the school search. I find one girl who graduated the same year. I don't recognize her, but I contact her. We try to figure who each other is and she mentions Pam...

Pam and I became best friends after high school. We hung out alot. Pam wasn't a beauty. She was smart, and funny. She worked at a grocery store and all the gang from there hung out on friday and saterday nights. I remember in a snowstorm I tried to take her home and we ended up with my car in a field! We got to her house and I spent the night. We talked all night long. In the morning her parents were happy instead of angry! Her mom embarrassed Pam by mentioning I was the boy that used to infuriate her all through highschool. She told me that Pam would come home and say I did this to her, and that. She came right out and said I told her he likes you if he bothers you this much.

We hung out together more and more and did things alone together. It was heading toward a romance. It wasn't so much physical, as genuine friends.

Then circumstances cut us off. My mom suddenly broke up with her husband and we moved. I had wrecked my car and couldn't get around for awhile. I worked a ton to support my mom and sister till they got on their feet. I didn't have her phone number, I didn't need it, up till then we saw each other 3-5 days a week.A few months later I finally tried to contact Pam ...she was gone! She had moved down south to the carolinas never heard from her again. Her friend was a little ill at ease about me asking, I assume I had hurt Pam by disappearing like that without a word.

Then I start talking to this girl from myspace and the first person she mentions is Pam! She hasn't spoken to Pam in years. Doesn't know how to contact her. But it makes me wonder...maybe I should try. Thoughts?

[Marlow]

Definitely. Just be prepared to make a friendly, graceful exit if she's married.

[pushkinswife]

Go for it. This might have happened for a reason.

[MIKEETC]

I'd try. Say, "Hello" and see what happens. The worst: not interested. The best: interested.

[SmerkyGrl]

You never know unless you try Good luck.

[jimboburnsy]

This will drive you nuts if you don't pursue it. Get in touch. I had an opportunity to hunt down an "almost soulmate" shortly after college and didn't do it because I thought it was a flight of fancy. I still wonder "what if." That's no good. Never deliberately put yourself in doubt for the rest of your life.

[himain]

Try because you never know. Just don't go into it expecting anything so you won't be disappointed. Please keep us updated. Good luck!

[East Coast Wanderer]

There's no harm in trying. Just go in expecting anything.