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Originally Posted by Prinny
That movie was nothing like my real life.
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We go to movies to escape reality so I would be surprised if it's like anybody's "real life" but come on now, if someone actually crticized my Mom that all she needs in her white sauce fish dish is a little more soy sauce, I can tell you right now she would not be a happy camper!!
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Originally Posted by me_myself_and_i
I am in a relationship with an asian male. I am a white girl. We seem to be having a lot of issues. He was raised in strict chinese family (CA) and I didn't have much parenting growing up. I have always been independent and learned how to do everything on my own. I have been married twice and have a daughter. Can anyone give me some insight on the asian or chinese culture so that I might be able to find a way to keep the relationship together?
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I haven't read through all the posts but I've skimmed through enough and I just want to say you need to realize everybody's experience is different. The bottom line is, if whatever your problems may be are deal breakers than either fix it or move on.
Generally speaking, I think Asians are very family oriented. Boys in the family tend to be more valued than girls but even that has changed. I'm Chinese (girl) and my two brothers have always gotten more of the "respect" in the family but I was spoiled rotten and have always gotten whatever I wanted. I think my parents love for me is more of a parent-child relationship whereas with my bros it was more of peer-to-peer relationship.
Also, some things that people have described (ie Asian guys being a “Mama’s boyâ€) isn’t just an Asian thing but crosses a lot of cultures. Yes, I do know Asian guys like that but I’ve known men of other races the same exact way. That’s a “how a mother raised her son†thing not a “race†thing, IMO.
I was serious about Joy Luck Club though. You’ll get an idea of how things work. There’s also another movie called “Better Luck Tomorrow†about a whole bunch of Asian kids living in CA and it’ll shed a different light on the Asian perspective, I think.
I read your post and laughed because I have a very dear friend, who is also Chinese, and she is very independent and free-spirited and tells me she wants to find a Chinese guy to marry who will not be intimidated by her personality. All the guys recently that she has dated are non-Asian. Maybe there is some truth behind all the posts.
Good luck!
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