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Women have contradicted themselves since the dawn of time. They can be real control freaks. For example: Trying to get a macho man to feel his feelings and express emotions. Trying to get a macho to talk. Trying to get a nerdy nice guy to be more macho. Women get over yourselves already! You are not perfect or that special to control a person's persona
I was wondering what women really think of sensitive guys. You hear about how women like men to show emotions etc etc
LOL, Chowhound, have you been under a rock? That's one of the core topics keeping this war zone alive! It's been chewed so many times in different versions and under different titles, it's not even funny.
Hate to say this, but artsy gave ya the essence. We want it all (those of us that care to admit it, that is). The problem is "all" is hardly ever found in the same type of person, which is the reason the qualities looked for in a lover and a husband are quite different (OK! for many - angels, please accept my apologies in advance). When you try to make a husband out of a lover is when disaster strikes. You tell me how often that happens based on the divorce rate...
so if I want a long term partner what should I look for? A less attractive man? A sensitive nerd? Where can I find one? tell me.
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
We want it all (those of us that care to admit it, that is). The problem is "all" is hardly ever found in the same type of person, which is the reason the qualities looked for in a lover and a husband are quite different (OK! for many - angels, please accept my apologies in advance). When you try to make a husband out of a lover is when disaster strikes. You tell me how often that happens based on the divorce rate...
The key is to keep 'em guessing!! Be a nice guy for a while then switch and be bad guy for a little bit. For example, call her regularly for a couple days to discuss a sad story and patiently listen to her voice her concern. Then don't call her for a couple of days. Then call her and when she asks why you don't answer your phone tell her you were going to answer but the Three Stooges were on...
Anyone can be a nice guy and bad guy at the same time!! Like this:
"Oh, look at the cute little puppy. He looks hungry. I wonder if I should give him a piece of my juicy T-bone steak?
Sensative , not wussy
Kind, yet assertive
Never controlling nor abusive
Strong enough to say no..especially to another temptation..
Wise enough and mature enough to have his own perspective
Yet not try to make me adhere to that
Creative enough to appreciate my art
Yet having his own
Macho..hmmm.. never entered my mind
I prefer a man who isn't so into himself that he spends countless hours worrying about his existential existence but is more about what's on the inside.
Afterall ..that's what really matters ..isn't it?
In other words
the man doesn't exist..LOL (just kidding)
(Of course , I could re-phrase the question..what does a man prefer, a woman who is an attention craving scantily clad vixen or a gentile ultra feminine type..the thing is everyone is different..I know some women who think that macho guy out there is all that..especially if he also has money..myself , I am just so much more concerned that he be honest and decent and caring rather than all those other things.)
I hope you are joking because I hate it when people do that to me. I'm like "forget that bozo" and sometimes I say it to the person's face. lol
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Originally Posted by MIKEETC
The key is to keep 'em guessing!! Be a nice guy for a while then switch and be bad guy for a little bit. For example, call her regularly for a couple days to discuss a sad story and patiently listen to her voice her concern. Then don't call her for a couple of days. Then call her and when she asks why you don't answer your phone tell her you were going to answer but the Three Stooges were on...
Anyone can be a nice guy and bad guy at the same time!! Like this:
"Oh, look at the cute little puppy. He looks hungry. I wonder if I should give him a piece of my juicy T-bone steak?
Oh , and to Mr "keep em guessing"..the only one you are fooling is yourself!
A woman would love you for who you really are if you give her and yourself the chance..the right woman.
If anyone treated me like that I WOULD RUN!!!!
no you are not "Just kidding" because I've been around TOWN and have yet to meet anybody like what was described on your list. Your list is great btw. good work.
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Originally Posted by Gretchen570
In other words
the man doesn't exist..LOL (just kidding)
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