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Why are you standing for this? Taking a "break"? He wants to break to be able to do someone and then come back to you? You are worth more than this. Don't stand for someone like this in your life---especially since you almost had a CHILD with him.
In my personal experience it means he wants out and usually when they say that they have someone on the side already. You need a mature man who will give you what you need and desire someone who will be there for you an emotionally mature man who will not bail when things get rough.The one for you (Have faith)he's out there I believe when you stop looking he will find you.Hang in there.
I've asked for a break, but it was because I needed to focus my attention on me for a while. I was so busy taking care of my ex, I didn't take care of myself. I caught up on bills, emails, cleaning, etc, without worrying about his stuff for a week.
I just needed to re-group, and sometimes his personality was so strong, it made me forget my needs.
Um... I've never taken a "break", so I don't have any great advice. All I can say is that I see things the same way you do, either you're together or you're not. I would just let him know that you don't do breaks. He needs to either make up his mind that he wants you or let you go and let you find someone who doesn't play games.
I've heard of people going on breaks, but I've never heard of them setting an actual amount of time aside for said break. This is just very strange to me.
You guys probably spend too much time together/on the phone. Get eachother some space. Try missing eachother and you'll grow closer.
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Originally Posted by shihtzumom
I am a bit confused as my boyfriend and I are currently on a "week break". His idea, not mine. This is coming after weeks of not seeing eachother much and him having financial and physical problems that in turn created arguments and not really getting along.
We have been dating a year and have been through all kinds of drama... we got engaged, then got un-engaged, were expecting a child, lost a child, he was in a bad accident and hospitalized for weeks, he has gotten 2 DUI's... I could go on and on. And not all in that order!
Anyways, in my mind you either breakup or stay together. I just do not understand the "break" thing. He says there are no rules but yet it is not a "guilt free week to do what you want". Am I single? I am confused!
He says it is something to save the relationship. In my mind it is basically breaking up.
He wants the "get out of jail free" card. Giving him the freedom to do whatever or WHOEVER he wants.
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