Feeling sexy for married people (dating, wife, marriage, lover)
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This question is for married people: do you still feel sexy? I used to feel sexy while we were dating, but that went away soon after we got married. I'm in my early 30's and we've been married for four years. I'm wondering how I can get that sexy feeling back.
What did it in the past was mainly getting dressed up and going to bars and clubs. Clubbing, drinking and hanging out at bars always made me feel very sexy, but that was in my early 20's. We don't do that anymore. I talked to my husband about going to some bars and clubs, to see what that would be like now. Part of me would feel out of place at those types of places now, but another part of me wants to get back to the drinking, bar-hopping, clubbing person I was back in my early 20's when I felt confident and sexy a lot. I'm trying to figure out why I would feel out of place in those types of venues now. Is it because those types of places are mainly fun when you're hanging out with friends and trying to meet people? Or is it only exciting to drink and dance when you're dating someone?
Do you still feel sexy after you've been married awhile? If so what makes you feel sexy? If not, do you want to try to get that feeling back?
Last edited by doglover29; 07-26-2008 at 09:56 PM..
I think just fixing your hair nicely, putting on make up, and the clothes that you chose to wear makes a big diffrence. Also, attitude plays a big part in your mood. Obviously we can`t feel sexy when we have curlers in our hair, yelling at the dog or kid. lol
Try to keep in mind the way your husband likes for you to look..well....that would probably come down to being naked..
Maintain your confidence. Go buy yourself a new, fresh outfit.
Sexy is more about attitude and confidence than where you go to have fun. My husband's compliments and the way he acts towards me (grabby, touchy-feely, "that look" in his eyes, etc.) help to make me feel sexy. Also, taking care of myself.
Sexy is more about attitude and confidence than where you go to have fun. My husband's compliments and the way he acts towards me (grabby, touchy-feely, "that look" in his eyes, etc.) help to make me feel sexy. Also, taking care of myself.
This is true! Even after you get that "lil pouch" you can still feel sexy. It's all about the attitude, the conversation and doing things together that you haven't done before.
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I dance around and shake my tush in my leopard skin speedo. My wife begs me to stop; in fact it's hard for her to stop her tears of joy or her guffaws of horniness long enough to choke out the words.
I think just fixing your hair nicely, putting on make up, and the clothes that you chose to wear makes a big diffrence. Also, attitude plays a big part in your mood. Obviously we can`t feel sexy when we have curlers in our hair, yelling at the dog or kid. lol
Try to keep in mind the way your husband likes for you to look..well....that would probably come down to being naked..
Maintain your confidence. Go buy yourself a new, fresh outfit.
That's exactly my thoughts. Feeling sexy is the same when you're married or not married. It's a feeling that comes from inside us. Confidence goes a long way in feeling that way and exuding sexiness. By knowing we're putting our best foot forward with our appearance, we wear a smile on our face, and we make those around us feel like a million bucks.... we are sexy.
It's normal for that "rush" of sexiness to fade a bit, over time! But if you work on it, you can get it back--maybe not 24/7, but at least for an evening now and then!
We've been married 35 years, and still enjoy each other's company and have lots of fun when we go out! (It helps that the kids are grown and gone--kids really put a damper on the feelings you're talking about!)
You may live in a smaller town but here in DFW there are places where couples of all ages go to have fun. Find a place where 30 somethings hangout, put on your sexiest and go have a good time. If you have some open minded fun friends take them with you.
I don't know how comfortable you would be but there is a gentlemans club here that caters to couples. The have fantastic cheap food and the view is very erotic. This is just an example, there are many places where you will meet other sexy friends and have a great night out.
Get back to your sexy roots & let your husband know there will be certain benefits that he will enjoy also. You can spice up your life. We are in our 50's, raised 2 kids & have partied like rock stars for the last 30 years.
I felt sexy when I used to work in an office and wore suits that hubby had picked for me and I knew I looked good. Well, fast forward a few years, with kids, now I do not work and I stopped feeling sexy too. I think it is a stage in a marriage where you get into a rut. I found that even if I am a SAHM, I still have to shower every morning, fix my face, put up my hair, look good. You look good, you feel good. Also, I have started working out again. Hubby likes to shop for me and that makes me feel sexy that he still likes to pick out clothes for me. I think it is more about picking up yourself and having hubby encourage you is just icing on the cake! Good luck!
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