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Old 08-15-2011, 07:41 PM
 
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When you first meet someone do you believe trust has to be earned or do you give it away freely? This question concerns all relationships (friends, family, co-workers). Not just romantic relationships.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:44 PM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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I am a pretty easygoing, laidback woman, however, I'm an excellent judge of character. With that being said, I usually trust what people are spewing, but can easily detect bull sh*t when I hear it. I want to add, I have the 'gift of gab' and can talk up a storm, and ask a lot of 'open ended questions". So if someone is telling me things and my gut is telling me run or something isn't right, I follow my gut ...
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I think it's more if you break it then it needs to be earned.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:50 PM
 
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Too many scumbags out there. Trust must be earned.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:51 PM
 
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When you first meet someone do you believe trust has to be earned or do you give it away freely? This question concerns all relationships (friends, family, co-workers). Not just romantic relationships.
Well, I'm going to give you enough respect to make you feel respected. But I'm not going to respect you so much so early that I'm going to just open my soul up to you. That needs to be earned and comes with time.
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Old 08-15-2011, 07:58 PM
 
Location: On the "Left Coast", somewhere in "the Land of Fruits & Nuts"
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How does that old Reagan homily go, "trust.... but verify"!
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:04 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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How does that old Reagan homily go, "trust.... but verify"!
Yeah. I subscribe to this theory.
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Pa
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How does that old Reagan homily go, "trust.... but verify"!
This makes sense. I have been hurt before so I do put walls up.
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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I have a friend who used to work for the police department and she would run background checks before dating people. That is so extreme to me, and ridiculous. If you're starting off on that foot, why bother ? I'd be livid if I found out someone researched me before even meeting me ...
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Old 08-15-2011, 08:08 PM
 
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Has to be earned and doesn't come easy.
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