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Well, I knew going into the marriage that he would be working a lot of hours--it was worse before we got married, actually--it was 100 hours back then. It's the nature of his job, and it's not going to get any better. I think when I finally get into my new career and am working full-time that I'll feel better about this and the lonliness issue--but since I only work part-time and he works the equivalent of two full-time jobs, it's hard for me to deal with the lonliness at times.
Also, there's a difference in my mind between being a workaholic (which he's not) and having to work that many hours because the job requires it. Since my hubby isn't a workaholic, and doesn't put in any more time in than is necessary, it's a lot easier to handle than if he were a workaholic.
Don't kid yourself, he's a workaholic, or he'd find some other job. He's working like this because it's what he wants to do. Revealed preference, as the economists call it. No one is holding a gun to his head, he's chosen the job, and the hours.
I'm with the majority in agreeing that I've always heard the "7 year itch" is when things get tricky, stale, etc... BUT, I do still believe in the sanctity of marriage, still believe that marriage IS what you make of it. If you communicate well, have fun together, and understand when you are being an idiot and know how to work through lifes little bumps, it doesn't have to get bad.
All successful long term relationships need regular tweaking and maintenance. To be passive about the relationship and assume that you're going to naturally get the happily ever after ending without any work is just asking for trouble. Especially since with most marriages, there are kids and real estate acquisitions involved. Naturally there will be more stresses applied to the relationship.
Sorry to hear that! Maybe time apart will be the best thing now. As much as it hurts, hang in there. Try to keep yourself busy. How about starting marriage counseling?
i think so too, as much as it hurts, im gonna let her go, if its meant to be shell come back!
Me & my wife are at each others throats, i love her to death, and at times, i wanna leave, but i suck it all up, and just take it ALL in. It is very hard, but i dont want to get divorced again, i think we can work out every issue, as long as their is no infidelity! I see it all as a test from the man up above!
Ive heard this more than once, alot of people have told me, that once u reach 5 yrs married, you reach a point, where your always fighting, bickering, basically getting on each tothers nerves. At this point you re-analize your entire relationship, and at this point, people either give up or keep on trucking, if you stay, usually you end up a stronger couple. Is this true, or atleast close to the truth?
Definatley not a myth.
I have a theory that its a genetic behavior. You get together, you have a child, and after the child no longer needs constant protection, one or both partners want to leave the relationship.
That is, unless another child comes along.
It helps propogate the species, and spread the gene pool around a bit more.
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