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this is one of the nicer threads, i have seen them get pretty rough with the current players. there is room for improvement. rather than make the new guys adjust to us, wouldn't it be nice if we made them feel more welcome. how strange that those they love to hit the hardest are also hypersensitive. i think the correct term is bully.
Did you actually go back and read before you formed this opinion, Huck? Everybody was giving her helpful, balanced, and respectful responses until she started accusing them of "attacking" her because their opinions didn't coincide with hers. Robert and Sandy were on that list, too, and they're people who rarely, if ever, get riled up, and they certainly didn't on this thread.
Indi9, If you feel some people in this thread have been or are being obnoxious (and I can see how you might feel that way) use the "Ignore" feature. Then you won't even see what they post. Let me know if you need to know how and I'll walk you through it. It's great!
laysayfair, I definitely want to know how to use this feature. Thanks for being helpful. Being relatively new here in cd has been mostly great, but this time around it has been like moving into a "nice" neighborhood with a tiny gang of cyberbullies who don't even seem to get that their posts are obnoxious because they are so caught up in their own little worlds. On the bright side, they did show me the kind of insidious opposition and criticism I will likely have to face when the time comes for me to either conceive or adopt, or when I have to meet the other parents, teachers, etc. at school. Ai yai yai... lol
I just used the ignore feature with a certain user who is supposedly a proponent of "free speech," as it turns out. When they teach the constitution in the schools now a days, do they also teach, regarding the first amendment, the idea of responsible speech? I also sent her a message asking her to refrain from posting any more statements of defense on this thread, telling her that this thread is not about her, and telling her that for whatever kind of tough time she must be going through I feel sorry for her and wish her well. And I do... Go figure.
Right now, I feel like a public radio talk show host who is reminding the callers to please stick to the topic at hand and to give me and our listeners well-reasoned opinions or arguments. I would still like to see both viewpoints, but let's not mistake freedom of speech for a license to attack or make unfounded assumptions.
I had my children at 34 and 36 which is middle territory....It really hit me how lucky I was to have them come out with the 10/10 after witnessing a parent pushing their disabled children during a visit to a supermarket....I know, I could not handle that responsibility; it's hard enough to deal with children who have it all going on......I, personally think that after 45, for health reasons, having a baby is not in the best interests of a possible baby; too many things can go wrong, just my opinion...and there are so many babies needing a mother who wants them...I would adopt if this issue arose in my present situation (seeing a younger man), or else do invitro with a surrogate.
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but thats ok.
Everybody was giving her helpful, balanced, and respectful responses until she started accusing them of "attacking" her because their opinions didn't coincide with hers. Robert and Sandy were on that list, too, and they're people who rarely, if ever, get riled up, and they certainly didn't on this thread.
